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Feminist rant

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brettgirl2 · 08/02/2009 10:24

Are women too selfish to be good mothers because they are working?

How else are we meant to feed ourselves? What about MEN????? GGRRRRRR!!!!!

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MrsMattie · 08/02/2009 10:26

Agree with you completely. All this focus on women. Pah!

A more family friendly attitude throughout the whole of society - flexible working, cheaper & better childcare etc - would help everyone enormously.

Constantly making women feel shit achieves nothing.

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brettgirl2 · 08/02/2009 10:29

It's on BBC 1.

Apparently a 'mother's place is in the home' in the bible.

I just cannot believe it! I earn more than my husband - he doesn't want to give up work so why aren't they having a go at him too?

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theyoungvisiter · 08/02/2009 10:29

yes indeed - how selfish of us to want to slave 9 hours a day to pay the mortgage and put food on the table

theyoungvisiter · 08/02/2009 10:31

ahh, BBC1, turn it off and listen to the Archers is my advice. Nothing lowers the blood pressure more than a good dose of cow manure.

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brettgirl2 · 08/02/2009 10:33

Thankfully the archbishop has just pointed out the report actually talks about the selfishness of people not women.

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MrsMattie · 08/02/2009 10:35

Yet I don't hear any great debate about men juggling childcare and work. Funny that.

i think we can safely say that 'people' generally ends up meaning women.

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brettgirl2 · 08/02/2009 10:39

The posh woman says that it means that you might not be able to have a holiday home if you don't work. I have to keep watching because I need to know how to complain.

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Poppet45 · 08/02/2009 11:33

And this is coupled with constant media cheerleading when house prices rise and despair when they fall. Imagine that backwards thinking with something like the cost of electricity or petrol or food - yey they've gone up in price - and yet they are equally important as shelter. The whole mindset is totally twisted in this country. Bring a massive housing market crash on. It'll cost less to move up for all of us. And if putting a roof over our heads cost half of what it does now women could actually afford to stay off for a decent period of time when their little ones arrive. Kind of how it used to be for our parents - when housing cost about half what it does now.

hayleybootes · 09/02/2009 22:05

OMG don't get me started on this debate! I know people that live on benefits, commit benefit fraud, and are sooo much richer than me! Me and my husband work full time, we both have good jobs, and it drives me mad when other women I know just sit at home accumulating benefits and they say to me 'I don't really want to work, i'd rather bring up my children myself'. Basically having a dig at me because my daughter was with a childminder full time and is now at nursery full time. I'd absolutely love to spend more time with my little one but i want a better life for us and I don't want to take the money other people pay in taxes just so i can sit on my bum!! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!

As I said don't get me started on this one!!!

xxhunnyxx · 09/02/2009 22:19

I studied Sociology at A Level and even that taught us that modern women are selfish because they want to go to work because they want a nice car and to have a foreign holiday ever year...how dare they??!

Lol I'd love to be able to stay at home with my children if I could afford to, but who'd put food in our mouths? Plus I just couldn't expect my bf to keep us, I earn more than him and the house is mine so I can't expect him to go out and work all day every day to pay my mortgage.

We can't win, if we stay at home and depended on hand outs as a result we'd get called scroungers, if we go to work we're selfish. Plus stay at home mums isn't good for the economy, thats why the govenment are actually trying to get young mums back to work.

We all just have to get on with raising our children the best we see fit.

MustHaveaVeryShortMemory · 09/02/2009 22:43

What is this debate about? Mothers working to feed their children and pay the mortgage OR have nice cars and second properties abroad? The difference being that for many of us it is NOT a choice. What programme is this Brettgirl?

Hawkmoth · 10/02/2009 11:22

In my mind I never expected to have all the perks that 'hardworking middle classes' seem to expect these days. Two foreign holidays??? Gym membership??? Eating out once a week???

That's for when I'm in my 40s and 50s!

KayHarker · 10/02/2009 11:31

Oh, it's just a version of 'Central Weekend' but on a Sunday morning. I've no idea why TV folk think that Sunday morning, when people who are home often have made a choice to reject going to church, would want to hear debates about emotive ethical issues, tbh.

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