Money Worries in pregnancy.

[hayleybootes]

I'm 18+5 weeks pregnant and am worrying about money. It feels like everyone around me just gets everything handed to them on a plate whilst me and my hubby just struggle through. We both work full time and I also work part time in the evenings and weekends. We don't have bad paid jobs at all but we have never had a chance to save up for a mortgage as we had our first child a year after getting together. We rent and it makes it so hard and with another one on the way that will be even more difficult to save up!! Makes me soooooooo down!!

Anyone else worry about money???

i try not to because nothing is gonna change anywhen soon, so it's pointless.

i know there is no point me saying "don't worry" cos you will anyway, but you know money isn't the be all and end all, and neither is havign your own house. it'll all come together eventually

I worried constantly when I was pg with my DS (now 12 1/2 months) and think I spoilt some of my pregnancy doing so I am currently 24 weeks pg and again I am having sleepless nights over money. I think it must be an instinct thing, making sure your baby will have somewhere warm and safe to live. At the end of the day as Thisis rightly said, worrying doesn't get us very far and babies actually just need warmth, love and some milk.

Please don't worry. Isn't it normal to struggle a bit with money when you have small children? I know that my parents did and we're not the only ones of my generation to have to downscale our lifestyles a bit. But children go to school and childcare costs go down and things do get easier.

I'm worrying too. 24 weeks' pregnant and my DH's company has just forced everyone to take a 20% pay cut for at least 3 months, starting this week. Am finding it difficult not to get stressed, but trying not to as think it must be bad for the baby. Am conjuring up some calm, relaxing vibes for you hayleybootes (and for myself!) and wishing you all the best

My thoughts go out to all of you with money worries as I to am really worried myself (and keep having sleepless nights) I am a supply teacher and I have just returned from travelling so I am do not get any maternity pay from gov or work. We are currently living with my very understanding parents and I am not getting enough work in to clear any debts let alone save for a house. My DP is working all the hours of the day and night freelancing but will he have regular work to see us through till sep (when I can work a little bit???)

But on the other hand I think it will be ok. There is nothing else I can think really, we will only be able to spend the money we have got and as long as we have roof over our heads come June it will be ok. The baby will have as much as it needs but we wont be able to buy the best buggy or some of the amazing things out there we would like, in an ideal world. Second hand and hand me downs are the order of the day, I think

I too will try and send out positive vibes to you all (especially in the middle of the night!)

My DH says that all the baby really needs is food, warmth and love, and we can all manage that in style

im 35 weeks pregnant and im not working as i was in education before i feel pregnant. im 18 and my bf has just turned 20.. i could sit forveer worrying about money as we dont have much.. all your baby needs is aall your support and love and i know babys require other things but you will cope. you might not b able 2 give your baby the world materialisticly but my mum could never give me a huge deal of things when i was younger and we have a great realtionship and ive never been unhappy. aslong as you give your baby all your love and support material things dont matter xxx

I know the feeling. Our 3rd child is on the way and although I'm really pleased and excited, it will mean childcare fees for 2 babies and pre/after school care as well. We're in permanent jobs and i do 3 days and weekend work too but we really struggle as it is. We live frugally now and I'd love to take a years mat. leave but we can't do it financially. I don't worry all the time but I find myself looking into ideas for bringing in more money online etc. Its reassuring to know that other people are having the same niggles. I sometimes feel like I'm surrounded by people that seem to have no money worries.If I find an honest get rich quick scheme I'll let you all know.
Good luck

Trust me there's a lot of ppl in a lot worse situations, the fact that you rent is probably actually one less thing to worry about. I'm 20 weeks pg and bf lost his job just before we found out I was pg and so far hasn't been able to find anymore work so I'm struggling to make ends meet as it is and my maternity pay wont even cover my mortgage, never mind all the other bills and food etc. I know I'll be entitled to some benefits but how much they will amount to and whether they will actually cover my bills I don't know. But tbh I don't even really think about the money worries, if I did it would send me insane.