Anyone else having trouble coming out of the closet fully?

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I'm 16 weeks tomorrow and most friends and family know, and boss plus immediate team at work. I really want to put something on Facebook or similar and let the world know - but I keep hesitating. At first it was "after the 12 week scan" then it was "at 14 weeks when I'm officially in 2nd tri" then I thought maybe 16 weeks, and now I'm thinking I'll wait until my midwives appt at 17+3 so that I can hear the heartbeat. I guess I'm just worried something will go wrong and being that I don't feel any movement and am showing just a little bit but not enough for anyone to notice/comment I feel like a bit of a fraud - like I'm not even pregnant.

Anyone else feeling like this? I want friends and colleagues to know, I guess I'm just still nervous.

tis normal to worry that you've imagined it all so far!
Just write something in your status; will prob help you feel more real about it.

hi ya, at 16 weeks your well in the clear, 12 weeks is when your chances of m/c dramatically lower. is this your first? im 12 weeks with twins this is my first pregnancy and im so relieved with every scan and would love to tell people but i want to make sure my 1st ante natel scan next week goes ok. im bursting to tell people at this early stage so i dunno how your managing to keep your news so private. i would post something like ive one on the way or roll on ..(the month your due)

Oh I felt like this too, and didn't really like to tell people. DH didn't understand at all as he wanted to tell people at 7 weeks after our first scan!

What did help me was having a 20 week scan and then feeling movements just after that -once I knew I was pregnant with a kicking baby it got much easier to tell people who didn't already know i.e. clients etc who I dealt with on the phone.

No advice really, just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone in feeling like this.

No you are perfectly normal. I am 18 weeks and still sometimes wonder if I am imagining it
I ended up putting something along the lines of "x hasn't eaten all the pies she has a bun in the oven" on my facebook status. Made me laugh anyway!

I changed my FB profile pic to my 12 week scan picture: people soon got the message

However when I had my 16/17 week sonicaid appt with the m/w (whenever it was) when she was trying to find baby's heartbeat, in my head I was thinking "you won't find anything there, honestly, I'm obviously imagining it". I just kept protecting myself in case there was something wrong (I have 1 3yr old DD but last year had 1 m/c and 1 mmc - that latter was very hard to come to terms with). When I heard the heartbeat on the sonicaid, I was almost shocked!

I am 20 weeks now and am slowly getting used to the fact that there actually is a baby inside me. Feeling kicking has helped that too. I won't be happy until after the anomoly scan next week though

I'm firmly in the closet and am planning on staying in there until I can no longer fit!

Hi Lbot - You don't need to say anything until you feel you want to. I had to at 14wks as it was becoming too obvious (ds a porker!) I was always on tenterhooks for ages between appointments, waiting for that heartbeat just to make sure.

Enjoy yourself, and don't worry!

Yes I felt the same before I told my colleagues- it's so funny as it doesn't make any sense. We all seem to be excited by the fact we are pregnant... I guess it is the whole 'what if something doesn't work out?' thing going on. I put xx is 17 weeks today on my status- obviously no man without a kid is going to get that so it was a kind of low-key/undercover statement.

I think this is understandable. I am currently 17 weeks with baby no 2. I have told family and a few friends. I would be happier if no one knew until it was born safely. DS1 was born at 33 weeks and when proud father sent e-mail to all our friends some had a bit of a shock! Makes me think we ought to tell a few more. Maybe after 20 week scan.

With DD, I actually found it easier to tell people before 12 weeks than afterwards. Although we only told a few family members before 12wks, it felt like I was saying 'I'm pregnant, supposedly, and I might even have a baby at the end, who knows. Let's see what happens.'

But after 12 weeks, I felt like I was announcing 'I'm GOING to have a baby!' and it felt way too over-confident. I felt so inhibited that I put off telling some friends (who I don't see often) for far too long (like towards the end of the pregnancy) and I think they would have liked to have known earlier.

I'm 24 weeks & we've told my parents & one friend. I just can't be arsed with a big announcement - people will figure it out sooner or later.

Thanks everyone. I can identify with so many of you - vesela that's exactly how I feel! In the end I just put "I'm not just getting fat" and the profile picture on my facebook page yesterday at 16 weeks. I got some really lovely comments from people, so it kind of felt good Now let's just hope everything continues smoothly.