So close to going on maternity leave but need to have a whinge!

[GYoIsReallyHavingABaby]

I'm starting mat leave from work as of next Friday 6th Feb so only another 7 full working days left.... Im trying to work but am just so tired, sore and fed up I want to cry! My boss is being arse (no change there) and has realised that his decision to not replace me means loads of things wont get done after I go, so he is pushing me hard for loads of work at the last minute, despite me asking to discuss handover etc for last 8wks! ... Also he gave permission for my team member to take a training course next week so I have to do his job as well as mine!!

Boss is such an arse - he keeps mentioning that its not fair that I get maternity leave and accrue holiday whilst Im away... He even said that he wouldnt be suprised if they cut the length of paid leave soon due to economic issues. What an ARSE! Im ure he is trying to make my life difficult out of pure bloody mindedness.....

If I wasnt pregnant, and feeling like this, I would have rung in sick (pure exhuastion, agonising pains in hips/back) but trying to put up with it as i've so little time left and feel as if I shouldnt make a fuss...

I am so tempted to ring in sick until next friday when Im meeting with HR to do leaving interview!

Sorry- rant over...feel better now!

Get some plasticine and make small boss doll. Then squish it - especially its bits.

If you do go off sick now it will count as you starting your maternity leave early.

Many sympathies though - I finished a week early cos my old boss was being a bitch

Love the voodooo idea... might just do that. Or post him some rotten fish after I've gone!

Thanks lenin for the suggestion but Ive been around the houses with the idiotic boss over the last few months (nearly made formal greivance) and fortunately wont work for him when I get back... so might let it lie and go and buy some playdough stuff and get scuplting...

Seems I cant be forced to start my mat leave yet... since I am only 33wks

link on starting maternity leave

am not really into taking sickleave, I tend to work at home but thats getting near impossible now too. Dread to think about the quality of the work im doing!

What a meanie - good luck surviving those last few days. As Iklboo says though they can count sickness as the start of your maternity leave. Voodoo sounds like a better option!

What a pig! I would just relax as much as you can , do your handover notes, give them to him and only do what you can do. If your colleague's work doesn't get done while he's away next week, it's really not your problem - he will be stuck with it on his return. And next time he makes a comment about what is and isn't 'fair', you might like to point out to him that he is on very shaky ground with his dodgy comments.

Honestly, though, I'm shocked at how many people have to go through this - you're the second person on here in two days that's been saying this kind of thing. Who knew the world was still peopled with sad little men with attachment ishoos! . Hope you enjoy the rest of your pregnancy (once you've finished work), and get to relax at home before the new arrival.

Thanks Daisy- you are right. I will do what i need to do then leave on positive note. He can stick it up his rear end

I don't think its fair that men don't have babies. What a dickhead.

I'd say something to your HR person. You might only have a week left to go but he can't be allowed to treat people like that, and will presumably speak to other pregnant people in the same way.

Agree with CookieMonster - the other person who was saying remarkably similar things about her employer also said that she compared notes with another pregnant employee and she had been through the same thing with him. Men like him shouldn't be allowed to get away with this kind of nonsense!

I also agree with cookiemonster, surely this will be classed as discrimination. I just went to the CAB website and found this bit about discrimination during pregnancy [http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/index/life/employment/parental_rights_at_work.htm#Dismissalorunfairtr e] its about half way doen the page. What a horrible little man, at least you only have 7 more days with him and then you are free of him for a while. Wheni was due to go on my maternity leave I was having really eveil thoughts about my employers and they were great with me lol althought the company went into administration 1 month before I was due to go back!!
I would say enjoy ur last week but just hope it isn't too stressful.

thanks for all your comments. I've just been referring to my company's harrassment policy and his behaviour fits within the description.

I'd definately go formal if I wasnt about to have a baby- really dont want to be dealing with the stress and worry when I want to enjoy my maternity leave etc.

I am planning to return to my HR lead to give her an update that nothing changed and recommend that they investigate it.

Sorry you are having this experience, I felt I was being treated similarly just before my maternity leave started and found myself getting increasingly upset and tearful at the pressure being applied.

I will give you the advice I was given (by another manager with whom I had confided). Your priority is your baby and in a couple of weeks, work will continue without you. I actually called in sick just weeks before my maternity leave started despite knowing that in doing so, I risked being disciplined and although I felt committed to my workplace, I hardly give it a second thought now with a baby to contend with.

Remember what is important...

thanks Kd. Think thats a really good advice.