Is it normal to be so anxious???

[Tahirah]

Hi, i've felt pregnant for the past couple of weeks but only had it confirmed by my doctor today, he's told me that i'm 6 weeks and 5 days pregnant. This is my first time and i'm so worried, my other half is all set to tell his family and everything but i'm scared to tell anyone in case something goes wrong and the worry is even stopping me from being happy about it... i just don't what to do to calm my nerves.

Oh honeybun, rotten isn't it? Being anxious about the health of your baby is perfectly normal and it will never leave you to a certain extent! However, if you genuinely do feel it's a problem why not find an understanding friend/relative or ring a helpline (like SANE) and just talk it through, chances are you'll feel better just for saying all the crazy worries you have. Worrying cannot stop anything from happening, but it can stop you from enjoying what can be a magical time. From my own perspective, I waiting until about 10 weeks to start telling people just to be really sure. Talk it through with him, he doesn't know what you are feeling unless you tell him, he isn't being affected by crazy pregnancy hormones! Good luck.

Tahirah I am totally there with you. I found out very early (about 4 weeks) and when i told my partner he wanted to tell the world which is understandable really, however i have a sister who recently MC at 8 weeks (which is where i am now) and so I didnt want to tell a soul till much later on. It hasn't helped me that my partner insisted on telling his family at 7 weeks, so now i have the added worry of telling every one if it all goes wrong.
I wake up worrying and go to sleep worrying, some friends have said this wares off when you get to week 12/13 but that seems like years away!
I too am finding it very hard to feel happy because i dont want to get excited over something that may not happen!xx

tahirah, i know how you are feeling, i'm sure it is normal. I am about 9 weeks and for the past 5 weeks, there isnt a day that has passed without me worrying that all is ok in there. All i can say is that if you feel ok, try and keep busy. tell those who you know will support you should yuo need it. We have had to tell dh's parents so they can help us out with dd when i am feeling so rough, but we havent told others.

good luck.

Hi Tahirah, I am now 20 weeks pregnant and have been anxious right from the start. My friends tell me that it is totally normal but I agree that it can stop the magic! As far as telling others - i think you should be the boss of that! We told my folks at 8 weeks as I needed to talk to my mum about my worries but everyone else found out from 12 weeks on. I think the answer to it all is to remember that most of it is out of your control and to enjoy the fact that you managed to get pregnant. Good luck xx