It is too much like hard work being pregnant AND a mother to toddler!

[Daffodilly]

This is a blatant rant.

I am 37 weeks pregnant with DC2 and have DD1 who is 2.2 gorgeous, demanding and full of energy levels I CANNOT hope to match.

I just want to lie on the sofa (or preferably somewhere even more comfortable) and watch daytime TV. Honest truth is that I am knackered and everything feels like such an effort at the moment. I just can't be bothered with dealing with DD. Then I feel awful of course - this isn't her fault, I don't have much longer to enjoy her to myself and she is really great fun (most of the time).

Help - someone give me a kick!

it is easier when the baby comes out,honestly,until the sibling rivalry starts...

I have my fingers in my ears!!!!! I don't want to hear this!!!!

Don't beat yourself up about it though-its not your fault either, no point in feeling guilty-easy to say I know-I'm sure I will

I know!! I would love to call in sick for a couple of days...

send your dd here, we'll entertain her while you sleep
as long as she doesn't mind dogs, cats, teenagers and noisy 7 year old boys

I'm 37 weeks too and have a 17 month old, and OMG it's tough!! I keep telling myself it'll be easier when baby's here.
I feel guilty too as not giving ds half as much attention as I should do and have been relying quite a bit on Cbeebies, soon be over though.

Yes - a sickie is what I need or failing that perhaps just a day off for good behaviour! DH is great and takes over when he gets home which can't be early enough these days.

I can only hope it will be easier when baby arrives - at least I hope some of the physical aches and pains will start to improve. Have bad hips and back pain at the moment - every time DD needs lifting, pants pulling up/down, toys cleared from floor.... anything that requires me bending and I am cursing inside.

Moan, moan, moan.....

Perhaps I can serve this little one an eviction notice a week or two early [WISHFUL]!

Oh Daffodilly, I can feel your pain! I had DS 2.6 and DD 1.6 , when i was 9 months pg with DD2! It was so hard, every night when DH came home i would drag myself to bed and lie there crying! just so exhausted and was 5 days late, but when I'd had her i felt so much better. It was much much harder being pg and running round after the other 2, than having toddlers and a baby. It did surprise me as i was dreading how knackered i was going to be but it wasn't as bad. Try not to feel guilty you haven't got long left now, stick cbeebies on and snooze! Once the baby is here you'll have time while it naps to do fun stuff aswell. Good luck! x

it is easier when baby is out as you feel more like you again. Every pregnancy I have felt like this and this time is the hardest as not only do I have a just 3 and 2 yr old but also a 5yr old who has a school run that is killing me...and am only half way through...lol

Totally sympathize. I just don't remember being this tired last time.

I have varicose veins that are itchy and painful and hip pain and every time my daughter says shes wants a wee inwardly I wince. I just don't know how I'll make it through the next 4 weeks. Well I think I do, mostly by complaining alot

Thank you. I should really drag myself off the sofa and into bed now. I am not really doing myself any favours!

Keep telling myself I am giving DD the amazing gift of a sibling for life - that should make up for a few rather unenthusiastic weeks (months?) of mummy playing from a lying prone on the sofa and a distinct lack of interesting activities!

Feel your pain as well. Am 23weeks pregnant with ds 2.8 and dd 10mo. When I was pregnant with dd the best thing was at 6pm an hr before ds bedtime we would have quiet time. Beaker of milk or juice or whatever, jammies on, blanket on top of us both. Something distracting for ds on tv and I would nap or atleast sit still! Also helped ds to get ready for bed........feeling nostalgic for quiet time now!

no but it is being pregnant and a mum to 2 toddlers like I was this time last year

Seriously, just be kind to yourself, take it easy, let her watch Cbeebies while you sleep sit on the sofa and cuddle her.

And I 2nd the fact that it is much easier when the baby is out.

Same as thatsnotmymonster this time last year I was pregnant and had a 3yo and a 2yo and OMG it was hard when you threw in SPD, DP working 12 hours days and no family support.

cbeebies and Disney DVDs saved my sanity, I also used to lie on DD1's bed and "play" with them.

It really is hard being pregnant with a toddler you don't have that long to go now and it really is a lot better once the baby is out, at least you can occasionally put him/her down.

Theochris totally agree with the wee thing. WHY did I think it was a good idea to potty train her before baby arrived?????

She is doing really well but I have had to do the bend over get potty, bend down pull her pants and trousers down, lift her onto potty, sqaut on floor next to her an encourage, get up, get toilet roll, bend down to wipe her, help get clothes back on, bend down to collect potty and empty routine about 15 times today alone! I hate bending down - I want a waist again!!!!!

Serious kudos to those of you doing it for third or subsequent times. You must be made of sterner stuff than I. I officially quit after this one.

I agree Daffodilly - do not potty train a toddler when heavily pregnant, I waited until DD3 was 12 weeks and DD2 2 3/4 and she did it in a few days.

I sympathise with being pg and running round after toddler there is 15mths between my 2 girls but if it makes you feel any better being pg when they are older is no better my girls are now 9 and 8 (next week) and i am 27weeks pg and completley shatterd. Still running around after them going from club to club,school runs friends over for play,stopping fights,picking up after them etc it never ends!

Watching this thread with interest as I'm now 33 weeks and have a very active nearly 2 year old dd who is distinctly a mummys girl at the minute. Dh does his best but sometimes only I will do, whether its play or going to bed or seeing to her in the night. Finding it increasingly hard to drag myself round after her when she wants to play and as for getting off the floor - feel like a beached whale!

Is it really easier once baby is here? Been getting more and more scared of prospect of looking after 2 children (although admittedly dd will still go to nursery for 3 days a week for as long as we can afford it!), especially as dd is so clingy to me.

Sorry, gone off on bit of a moan there....

Good grief, I'm only 18 weeks, and already find the manic 3 yr old/pg combo just too much. I've had a whole day off to myself today, except then I had to go and sort out some bills, had offered to take a friend to lunch for her birthday, have a natal exercise thing this afternoon....and all this in 37 degrees (can you tell I'm not in Peckham anymore:-) - so what am I doing? Using my peaceful 20 minutes on MN!

I'm completely knackered.....

Rant away, I feel better just for writing it down. (Oh, and we don't have cbeebies, which is as good a reason as any to stay in teh UK as far as I'm concerned....).

PS I need to post somewhere about sending DS to nursery 3, not 2 days, because of pg./new baby.. thanks for the reminder.

It really really does get better, speaking as a mum of two boys 18mnths apart . The first six months of combined toddler/baby was the hardest. Now I only intervene if I think blood's going to be drawn .