I'm such a Coward!!!

[Hawkmoth]

I feel terrible.

I was so scared about telling my mum about this pregnancy as she's very negative, a huge worrier and has been very clear that she'd be totally against me having any more children.

Of course, it's not really any of her business, but very stressful nevertheless.

I was going to tell her this morning, but I chickened out as my heart started racing and I felt all sweaty... so basically I just dumped my 3yo there with a copy of "There's a House Inside My Mummy" and ran away to work.

Oh dear. Weak.

Why is she against it? What is she worried about?

ROFL I was the same when I had my last child. I had a cone biopsy done and laser treatment to my 'bits' I was told not to have intercourse (TMI) for a few weeks because of infection. Little did I know at the time I was already about 10 days pregnant I was also almost 41!! When I found out I couldnt tell my mum.

I eventually did and she shouted at me 'after all the problems you have had and you go and get pregnant are you stupid!!!' Now DS4 is 11 and she is so in love with him.

You will be fine love - if she does rant just listen and nod - everything will work out ok xx

Just checked your profile! - I am from Bolton - are you sure your mum's not called Dorothy

Well... I was single (24) when I had my first, and due to me having SPD my mum copped for a lot of the work. At first she put a LOT of pressure on me to have an abortion and it was quite horrible.

So she'll be worried about my health, that I'll neglect DD, the fact that I'm not married to DP (whose divorce is not yet finalised and who has two kids already).

This Christmas DD got a baby doll for her present and kept talking about her new baby. Mum said it made her blood run cold. And the first thing she said when I moved in with DP was 'don't get pregnant'.

We weren't trying, but are both thrilled and excited.

I'm sure my mum's not called Dorothy BTW, though she is from Bolton!

She just phoned me, and I ignored it. Time to man up Hawkmoth!

OMG she's from Bolton!!! That was a bit of an XFiles moment Perhaps my mum has a secret 'other' life that I know nothing about. xxxx

Hahaha. I've got that book, it makes me cry when I read it to ds.
You might as well take her call, you'll have to see her later when you collect dd and it might be easier to have that first convo over the phone instead of face to face.

Do you want me to tell her Im used to it by now!!!

Well my mum rang and I told her, though she hadn't quite grasped the meaning of the book.

She was clearly very disappointed, but she did manage to snarl out a "congratulations" before launching into:

I thought you wanted to get married first and have your own house (we rent now!)

I won't be able to help you as much as before

Your house is a tip

You live like students (what??? I can only assume this refers to the fact that when we do a weekly shop we plan what we are going to eat and so the cupboards are not overflowing and we don't throw away half the contents of our fridge every week)

Are you happy? Well YES, we are... so that's the end of it.

I think she will channel her panic into clearing our attic and finally, after many years of me asking, coming to some car boots with me so I can get rid of some boxes of useless tat!

Phew, maybe when I have my third or fourth she might actually crack a smile.

LOL Shabster! Fancy telling my OH's ex instead? She'll probably stop him seeing his children again. Utter lunatic.

No prob just give me her number

My mum is still mortified that my eldest son (27 years) and his PARTNER have a little boy who is 7 months old. LOL

Her favourite line 'Good job your Gran is not still here she would be spinning in her grave!!!' What?????

Oh, I am SO looking forward to telling my OH's ex that I am pregnant.

Not that they were ever married, or have kids, but they did live together, and even FIVE YEARS after they split up (he left her for me, although she doesn't appear to have worked that one out), she still simpers over him at every opportunity.

Cannot wait to do the whole belly rubbing thing in front of her. Especially since for the first 2 years of our relationship she used to send him regular pictures and updates on the cat. And STILL sends him birthday and Christmas presents. Am sure she will spontaneously combust when she realises we are having a baby. Mwahahahaahaha.

Oooooh verityclinch - you're as evil as me! I LOVE showing off baby and now bump too to DH's ex. Its really just because I think she's prettier than me but I got him and you still want him to ne ne ne ne ne!!!

Poor Hawkmoth, can't imagine mum being like that - mine is the opposite! You were very brave to finally tell her though - well done! hurrah. Now you just have to put up with the comments for the next few months/years.....

Excellent Verity. Mind you, I don't know how you haven't killed her with the hormones! I've grabbed the phone of OH while she was giving him a b-l-king and put it down, then all the other phones in the house. I also told her exactly what I thought of her when she accused us of putting the children at risk of being kidnapped (by taking them to a Christmas market!).

I'm hoping to wait until the divorce papers she promised to put in six months ago are filed before I tell her, as that will make it all the sweeter.

Don't hormones make you evil at times?

Oh, I am like this ALL the time where she's concerned. But the pg hormones do just about make my behaviour acceptable at the moment, so I am making the most of it...

Lucky for her, she lives about 200 miles away, so I only have to deal with her a couple of times a year (when she finds some excuse to "be in the area" for her bi-annual-simper-a-thon).

You'd think, after 5 years, she'd give it up, though, non?!

Hawkmoth, your DH's ex sounds certifiable! Is she holding out on the divorce papers as some kind of power thing? Little does she know, you have ALL the power now!