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[mogwai]

Okay so I'm 18 weeks pregnant with my second child and just feeling a bit overwhelmed. I have SPD that's making it hard to sleep.

My husband works long hours and often works weekends. When he's at home he's generally a bit lazy and spends his spare time sort of watching TV with a can of lager. I can understand he needs to chill out but I find his lethargy and inertia depressing. We have several jobs to complete on our house before we have our spare room "spare" for the new baby and I'm constantly having to give him a push to get him to start (or think about) any of them.

Grandparents are useless at giving us support.

I also have three jobs, a four bedroom house to clean (three loos!), a too-busy social life (in terms of being invited to children's parties, weddings, etc) and on the days I don't work I'm in a constant round of shopping, cooking and buying presents for weddings/birthdays. My three year old is a joy but terribly demanding. I get no time whatsoever to myself. I have grown out of my bras and need to buy some more but have no time to go shopping when I'm not either at work or with my 3 year old.

SO tempted to go off sick this week but you feel guilty enough about being pregnant without taking time off sick as well.

I've arranged for Tesco to deliver next week's groceries for the first time ever but apart from that I cn't see how to escape the way I feel. It seems there's nothign that can give so I can get some space. I used to get to the gym but now the SPD is preventing this I feel I have no escape at all.

Just wanted a rant I suppose. Anyone else feel the same?

With my first I was on my own and still a Uni. I had to take control, get a job, finish my exams and make sure I would get Mat Allowance and have somewhere to live! This time I'm with a lovely guy, lovely house, job that I love and generally sorted... But I feel crap!

I have no control over the situation, there's nothing I can do to hurry things along, I just have to relax into it... and I can't!

Find myself overreacting to lots of things, worrying needlessly and feeling completely at a loose end.

Oh to have more energy, less pain, less wind (!) and just to be able to have a pint of bitter without the thought making me retch.

Bloody Hormones. If men got pregnant they would go off to spas for a year, I know it!

Oh Mogwai, sounds like your life is too hectic for words! Is there anyway you could move permanently to on-line shopping for groceries, maternity bras/clothes and even gifts? I haven't been able to get to the shops for my maternity gear (work too much), so bought it on-line at Dorothy Perkins, Next, ASOS and Figleaves. Sounds extravagant to buy on-line, except that a tube ticket or parking costs seem to equal the delivery cost so you may not be saving much money going to the shops.

Re time to yourself - can husband watch TV w your little one while you have a bath (esp w relaxing oils) or read a book? Does SPD prevent pregnancy yoga classes because if not they might help you chill?

Hope you can find some way to lighten your load!