Infectious young kids, what would you do?

[Poppet45]

Hi all,

DH wants to visit his brother this weekend, who kindly forgot to mention until last night that both his baby son and 5 year old daughter have high temps etc and are coming down with something nasty but unknown.
They don't know we're expecting and I wasn't going to go anyway as I'm knackered, and I didn't fancy four hours on a train, as despite us having no car they always expect us to visit them.
Anyway I'm starting to panic incase the kids have something nasty as I'm only 11 weeks and don't want dear hubs to bring me home something that could harm the baby like chickenpox (which we both only had very very lightly) or smacked cheek/fifth disease which as far as I'm aware I never had.
Am I overreacting if I asked him to put it back a week? He thinks I am. What would you ladies suggest? It isn't going to be him that would have to have the extra scans and worry if I do catch something scary.

You can't stay away from illness, it's all around! you could catch something from someone in the corner shop!

well as you don't know yet what they're coming down with,i personally think you have every reason to delay the visit.you wouldn't forgive yourself if you'd endangered your unborn baby in any way would you? I know you can't help but mingle with alsorts of people in town/public transport etc.but at least you would feel better about it yourself.just say you feel you might be coming down with something yourself and would rather not pass it on to the kids!

Especially as you say you're already knackered, I woud put off the visit and make up an excuse why for now. Once you're ready to let people know your exciting news you could explain to them that this was the real reason that you postponed your trip. I'm sure that they'll understand

I didn't put off a visit in similar circumstances and have been ill with flu for 12 days so far! Wait until you know what they've got (and avoid flu as well as the nasties, seems to hit hard in pregnancy)

Also tell DH you're still in the first trimester too so need to try and avoid a high fever?

I don't think you're overreacting. Your reasons sound fine to me. I'd postpone.

you are not overreacting - I would avoid them like the plague if it was me - not necessarily because of worry about risk to unborn baby but because you have enough to be dealing with in the first trimester without picking up some nasty bug as well.

ps young kids are the worst - they don't know any better and will cough and sneeze all over you and everything else. There's no avoiding germs with them!

Thanks ladies. DH has acquiesced as I was lucky my midwife assistant was visiting and she also suggested a little caution. The compromise is he gets to tell them why! I'd rather wait til the scan but as my sister knows I can't really complain. Only fair I suppose!

I would postpone too. I've blocked my DP going to visit his mother in hospital as they have Norovirus on her ward, sure she won't mind when we get round to telling her why!