Happy to be pregnant but tired of being sick as a dog :(

[nandos]

Am about 11wks pregnant today but have been having morning sickness since 5 1/2 weeks. Some days I could not even function properly as a normal human and the headaches are unbearable.
Dh and I have been trying for nearly 3yrs and had 2mcs in the past and we were very delighted when we found out we were pregnant in nov last yr. Now it seems as if I made a mistake of falling pregnant.
I know it sounds crazy but has anyone felt that way before?
Is there such a thing as depression during pregnancy?
My ms got so bad that I keep throwing up nearly every meal, throwing up while taking shower, before going to sleep and nearly every morning twice a day
Thought of seeing a gp but the last time i saw the gp, he said he doesnt have a magic cure for ms

Oh nandos I do sympathise. I remember sitting on the sofa crying and saying 'just make it stop, whatever you have to do' and then feeling guilty for not wanting to be pg anymore. But it is just the WORST feeling and I wasn't even throwing up all the time as you are, just had constant nausea. If you are throwing up all day every day, it could be hyperemesis rather than ms, and I would try seeing a different gp if you can who might be a bit more sympathetic. There are anti-nausea drugs that you can take in pregnancy and being so sick can be bad for you e.g. causing dehydration (which might be contributing to your headaches) so don't feel you have to keep soldiering on.

I also got so sick of people telling me that I 'should be feeling better by now' once I got to 12 weeks. It didn't really stop until about 19 weeks, but it did stop and now I feel much better (except now I'm anaemic and breathless but that's a different story LOL)

Hope things improve physically and try to give yourself a break about how you feel - it's completely normal and expected when you are feeling so awful. When it passes you can be excited about being pregnant again.

Nandos - my ms stopped at 11 weeks. It got me down so much, and I didn't feel like I could be happy about the pg, not only because I felt so sick, but because I couldn't tell anyone why!

Hopefully it'll pass soon.

Nandos
I really feel for you - sounds like you are suffering terribly. It is not at all surprising that you feel down - I felt down the first 3 months when I also had MS, but mine was nowhere near as bad as yours. Yours does sound fairly serious so I would go back to GP - particularly in case you get dehydrated. I found some drinks/foods eased my tummy a little: fizzy water (I drank gallons), milk, bananas, toast. Might any of these help?
Good news is that MS often passes after 1st trimester. Mine went at 11 weeks (not totally, but only got rare waves of nausea after that).
Meanwhile, just do what you need to to get through each day - you poor thing. It will be worth it in the end though .... promise!!

thx ladies..
i feel a bit better after reading these posts.. but i just can't imagine having ms till 19wks like 1stMrsF
i heard of hyperemesis but i guess im just in denial?? hate to think what if other ppl think im so weak and so on
the good news is that we heard baby's heartbeat yesterday n today so the ms didnt really affect it as i thought it would.
also madigan thx for the tips re the food n drink. i tried that as well as a lot more food n nothing could stop it..guess im just unlucky
i did purchase 2 anti-nausea wristband a few days back so might try it when i get it heard it worked for a lot of pregnant women.

hope you ladies who r pregnant this time have a healthy n happy pregnancy

Nandos - totally normal to feel like this. I wanted desparately to be pregnant, mc, then this little one. Ecstatic for about a week then felt sick as a dog from 5 - 12 weeks. I am never great when I'm at all ill but I have never felt so down. Every day woke up wanting to cry as felt so bad and it was relentless, every week felt like a month. I found myself thinking "if I wasn't pregnant I would feel better, have a made a mistake, maybe this is what my life will be like from now and I've messed it up, do I want kids after all, I've totally lost my life." And I am really not usually a drama queen!

Now, at nearly 14 weeks, I feel quite a bit better and the feeling has changed. Am just starting to feel positive and get excited. I think worry about miscarrying contributed to the pressure.

This sounds totally normal. You have my sympathies, I don't know if I could go through the last couple of months again....

Nandos am with you there. I'm 8-9 weeks and feeling bloody awful. There are things that the gp can prescribe - I've been prescribed three different things - none of which worked but they might do for you.

I also tried acupuncture yesterday - it hasn't done anything yet but I've got another appointment next week and the woman was quite hopeful that after a few sessions it would be much better.

Then on top of that you've got the guilt of feeling so crap because other women are struggling to get pregnant!

I hope it lessens soon.

I had awful ms too and I haven't forgotten it but it will eventually get better. Ice lollies helped me keep hydrated and it was the only thing to keep me going. I threw up most meals also. I read somewhere in a magazine yest not to eat and drink together, leave a drink until half hour after your meal and that reduces the sickness. My sickness carried on until 5 months but Ive known friends to have it until just week 13 so just try sit tight. It's a bit boring in early weeks but as soon as ur scans and midwife apts come throughthe nicer things make it better and fingers crossed it'll stop soon. I tried arrow root buscuit and ginger buscuits(burnt my throat I was tht sick) and nibbling before getting out of bed and it did not help me at all, nothing seemed to except ice lollies. It annoyed me when people told me it'll get better and i dreaded it would stay through the whole pregnancy but they were right. I know tht the founder of 'blooming awful' had a severe case of ms her whole pregnancy and eventually sought help for her second from a homeopath and she said it was miraculous and cured it in 6 wks I think, and she had originally considered an abortion despite wanting a second baby as she felt she could't do it again. Worth googling i'm sure it'll b on here. Hope your ok anyway. Good Luck xx

And.....no one tells you it's going to be like this. YOu read about MS and think, ah yes, the odd puke first thing, which probably won't happen if you get in a couple of ginger biscuits, then at 12 weeks exactly you start to glow.... Pah

I mean creating a person is pretty amazing, but don't you just want to be able to unscrew your bits for a couple of hours and leave them in a cupboard, have a nice lunch out and a trip round the shops, maybe a nap, then come and pick them up again!

lol newb your post made me laugh
soo true..tried that silly ginger biscuit thingy and puked after a couple of mins later..
i might try the ice lolly cos' its making me drool at the moment..hmm yumm

Hi Nandos,
I had MS for ages, and I did feel really down. Have to say that while I am delighted to be pregnant (baby is due tomorrow) I did find that constantly feeling queasy really got to me. My remedy was ice cold sparkling water. At first I was constantly eating, ryvita/biscuits etc too but I found that if I could just eat small a few small meals I felt better. Drinking more water really helped.
Remember you are sitll in the early stages when the placenta is growing so that surge of hormones will subside and you will get more energy (found being tired the worst because i couldn't get up and walk off the MS")
Have to say that I still felt queasy around week 20 but not half as bad as in first trimester. It will get better. xxx

Hi nandos

ive the dreaded ms too and feel like crap most days, it seems to be all day too and although i might not throw up that much the sickly feeling seems to be there constantly, any strong smelling food turns my guts and cigarette smoke yuck. ive been googling ms flat out looking cure, tried the ginger nuts too. It started around boxing day, was about 7 weeks i actually thought i had a bug. im hoping it goes soon. i hated leaving the house last weekend, and i took a plastic bag with me everywhere. hunger makes me feel sick too even though i eat small amounts regularly. hope you ms dissappears soon, just think of the end result and how it is worth it.

ooh loveactually congrats! hope your birth is an easy and fast one
valz i did search on yahoo constantly too to find a cure..
hope your ms isnt too bad right now. mine get worse as the pregnancy went on but i hope all the women out there with ms will get better and that their ms will disappear soon

Dont worry, the end of the horrible sickness is in sight!
You should find that the sickness will start to ease off in the next few weeks. I found at 12 weeks most of the sickness went, I'm now 14 weeks and I'm only sick if I have to get up early.
Everybody is different but most women find that the sickness goes from around 12-14 weeks x

Oh and altho the sickness is awful the good thing about it is it reasures you that your baby is still alive and kicking in there! I used to feel awful but at the same time i'd think 'yay my baby is still alive'. Aparently the stronger the sickness the stronger the pregnancy is.
And yes it's perfectly normal to have times when u feel down in pregnancy, it's hard work, especially when you're not keepin food down and being sick also makes u even more tired. It gets u down and then u feel even more down cos u think u should feel over the moon about your pregnancy, but u don't.
Have u had your scan yet? If not I bet you'll feel more positve about it all once you've seen your little bambino dancing around, you'll see that it's all worth it in the end x

Just sympathy from me nandos. Am also 11 weeks and being sick a fair bit, made my throat bleed a couple of days ago after orange juice reappeared. Had quite a good day today though. I've found that things like yogurt/milk stop it burning so much if it comes back up...

Nandos

Totally normal to feel this way - I was throwing up 5 to 15 times a day from 7 weeks to 13 weeks and was on anti-emetics in weeks 11 and 12. Ended up having 6 weeks off work although thankfully avoided hospital.

It was the grimmest time ever, but rest assured it does get better - I'm 20 weeks now (2nd scan on Monday) and looking back now, that 6 week period seems rather like a nightmare seems when you remember it at 4pm the next day, out in the sunshine and warm breeze! But I know how hard it is to believe there will be any end to it when you're in the thick of it with your first experience of the first trimester.

It's awful awful awful at the time - not only the sickness but because your hormones make you feel so down and blue you don't want to do anything or see anyone. I remember I thought to myself "frankly if I have a miscarriage I really won't care - anything to get rid of this awful feeling!"

But rest assured it does get better, and you're nearly there. Everyone is different, but I'm pretty sure you'll find your mood lifting and the sickness reducing from about 12 weeks onwards- and many people say that by about 15 weeks they're feeling positive and normal again.

You're right about the depressed mood in the first trimester - but this does change as your hormones settle and the placenta starts working fully. I have found in the 2nd trimester I've still been tired, achy, hungry, exhausted (certainly not "blooming!")but somehow your hormones are different and although you have these discomforts you don't mind so much and your basic mood is good - epecially when you start feeling kicks and really thinking of your baby as a little person! Although I'm zonked after work and achey all over, I'm excited and happy at the mo and thrilled to be pregnant.

Plus - sickness is good - means its all happening vigorously in there and is usually a sign of a robust baby, don't they say?

Hang in there - in a month you'll be looking back at this time feeling v relieved its over!

Bumps x

I am pregnant with twins nandos and it is quite typical to have ms for longer with multiple births so don't panic - no reason to think you'll also have it for that long. Hope not anyway! I also found the wristbands worked and eating whatever I could face, no matter what it was.

Hope you feel better soon.