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Embarrassingly stupid question!

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MummyToLeon · 02/01/2009 01:31

Hey, sorry to ask but cant ask anyone else!

I am 23 weeks pregnant and posted a while back about the high risk of my baby having downs or other abnormalities. Because of this, i was wondering if me having sex is likely to be hurting my baby? I know it probably sounds stuupid right now but it is hurting me a hell of a lot and i just need to know if it will be hurting my little girl too?? Hope someone can help. Sorry

Gem x

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scrooged · 02/01/2009 01:34

If you are finding sex painful, then don't do it. It doesn't harm your baby.

scrooged · 02/01/2009 01:35

Maybe try some KY jelly if you are a bit 'dry'? It does happen in pregnancy, it can make sex painful.

fourlittlefeet · 02/01/2009 01:37

or try a different position? it won't hurt your baby

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MummyToLeon · 02/01/2009 01:40

Dont know whats causing the pain. Probably the pressure of him on my bump. Just want to please him but he complains that he "can't" come in any other position. Piss take. Was just worried i was hurting my baby so that makes me not want it and so i stay dry. Sorry if i sound stupid

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scrooged · 02/01/2009 01:42

It's alright. What about spoons? This is more comfy for you.

He is taking the piss by the way. Tell him you want a different position or there will be no sex. You won't hurt your baby. Your vagina is quite long in the scale of things so his penis will go no where near!

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MummyToLeon · 02/01/2009 01:45

I do prefer spoons at the moment because it doesnt hurt and also he cant see my deflated leaky boobs from behind! lol just want to keep him happy. Ive already got a baby and sex was fine when i was pregnant with him but its just so different this time. He keeps telling me we're not hurting her but he is so rough!!

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scrooged · 02/01/2009 01:49

He needs to accept that you've had one baby and are having another so your body isn't going to be the same as it was before the babies. If you don't enjoy sex then you need to tell him. Both should enjoy it and it should never be a chore. He's not hurting her but if you are not enjoying it then you both need to try something else. Talk to him about it.

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MummyToLeon · 02/01/2009 02:15

Thanks Scrooged. Hope your ds is okay x

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nappyaddict · 02/01/2009 02:29

Hey Gemma!! Haven't seen you around much lately are you ok? What's your due date?

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MummyToLeon · 02/01/2009 02:42

Nappy!! im due on May 5th! Not been too well but hey! How are you?

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nappyaddict · 02/01/2009 02:49

oooh not long to go then. only 17 more weeks!!

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MummyToLeon · 02/01/2009 02:53

Im dreading it in a weird kind of way

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nappyaddict · 03/01/2009 01:10

Try some other positions if the pressure of him on your bump is hurting too much.

Edge of the bed: Try lying down face-up on the edge of the bed, with your legs spread and the soles of your feet on the floor. Your partner can stand or bend over you. This position, however, does allow him to thrust more deeply, so you'll have to tell him how gentle and slow you want him to be.

Side by side: Another good choice for late pregnancy, this position will control thrust and keep weight off your belly. You and your husband lie side by side, facing each other. He slips his leg over yours (your leg can be either straight and to the side or bent at the knee) and enters you from an angle. In a variation of this, you lie on your back and he on his side. Put your leg that's closest to him over his legs. He can enter you from the back and side, and still have his face next to yours.

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