HELP... just split up with BF...what shall I do?

[xxhunnyxx]

I'm 13 weeks pregnant and me and my boyfriend split up last night.
I wont go in to all the details of our relationship as I'd be here all day (it's v complicated). But we've been friends for 6 years and spent a majority of that time having some kind of romantic involvement.
The baby was planned and we were TTC for about a year before we finally caught the egg. Ironically we finally concieved during the month that my BF decided that he didn't want a baby anymore, but by that time it was too late! When I found out I was pg I was prepared for him saying that he didn't want it but I had already decided that if he didn't I would have it on my own. Anyway, he was happy about the pregnancy, and still is, but last night (during drunken texts) he told me that he doesn't want a relationship with me and wants us to just be friends.
We don't live together but the plan was that we would have the baby, he would virtually live with me but still keep his own flat where he'd just stay 1 or 2 nights a week and we would still be a proper couple. Although this isn't a convential arrangement I was happy with it.
Anyway in my rage I basically told him to get lost and that if he couldn't do things properly then not to bother doing them at all and to contact me if he grows up over the next 6 months.
I know I'm just angry at the moment but I feel like I don't want him messing me and the baby around, I don't want him coming and going out of our lives and chosing to only enjoy the good moments and dodging all the bad stuff that comes with it.
Am I being unreasonable?
I'm trying to dodge the ''it's all or nothing'' phrase, but that's how I feel.
I'm just hoping that when he wakes up he'll realise what an idiot he has been but I doubt that will happen immediately. When similar things have happened in the past (pre-pregnancy) it's taken him a couple of months to realise his mistakes and come crawling back.
My family is great and I really do feel like I can manage without him.
What shall I do? Do I just wait for him to apologise? Try and sort things out? Or just look after me and the baby and forget about him? HELP!!

Funnily enough mrsboogie I wrote him a letter last night. I didn't mention the matter of another man possibly raising his child one day, I talked about the implications that us not being together will have, mentioned all the things he will be missing out on etc.
I've told him that I want him to play a proper role in his child's life but in reality things won't work the way that he seems to envisage they will.
So basically he needs to have a serious think about what he wants for his child, we're either a proper couple and do this together properly or I'm a single mum and he'll see his child at weekends. There's no middle ground.
I think I'm gonna drop it off at his Mum's this weekend and she can give it to him, it'll also mean I can have a chat with her cos I'm not sure that she knows what is going on but she will certainly want to. She loves me and really wants us to work out and always tells me to speak to her when I've got any problems with him and she sorts him out lol.

It's good that you have her on side. Seems like you are doing ok for family support networks . These people will be very important to you - it is very hard work raising a child on your own and you will need all the support you can get. Hopefully his mum will be able to make him get his arse in gear!

Just thought I'd update u on the situation...

I wrote him a letter and took it to his Mum's on Sunday night and asked her to give it to him. She's been great about it all.
But then late sun night / mon morning one of his best friends who he's grown up with since being a toddler suddenly dropped dead!! It's a massive shock to all of us, altho I wasn't all that close to him I considered him as one of my friends too.
So, his Mum has obviously not given him the letter and I've spoken to him and told him to not worry about the issue of 'us', all I'm worried about is making sure he is ok and making sure he gets through this OK. He's really bad at handling emotional issues, especially death, I'm really worried that it could send him a bit loopy!
So anyway, I've said we'll deal with 'us' when he feels ready. TBH I'm just really in shock about it all, I can't help but think 'omg what if it had been him who died?' which really upsets me.
But anyway, I keep getting ppl saying that he can't dodge his responsibilities and he still needs to sort things out with me etc. It's just really beginning to annoy me cos this death has just made me put everything in to perspective and the way I feel at the mo is that as long as we are all healthy nothin else matters.
Am I wrong? Surely it would be wrong of me to load him with more problems when he's goin thru such a tough time? And as I'm upset too I'm not sure that I even wanna deal with our relationship problems just now. Of course we will need to get things sorted one way or another but it's not as tho baby is turning up any time soon.

Sorry about the huge essay!

blimey! That's terrible for you both. I think you are right to give him some space - no point in pressurising him now. Like you say, the baby isn't here yet! Just tell him you will talk when he is ready (so long as he doesn't take forever about it!)

Maybe this will give him some perspective on his own life and remind him that life is short and that he needs to be here for his child now, in case anything ever happens to him!

Yeah I'm hoping that too, and also hoping it will make him reconsider his lifestyle (ie smoking and drinking), it looks like his death (altho sudden) was probably brought on by his heavy drinking.
And hopefully this baby should give him something positive to focus on to help him get through this x