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ive gone off sex and my partner is taking it very personally, how can i explain to him?

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breaghsmum · 30/12/2008 21:44

im 20 weeks pregnant and my partner is in the navy so only gets home about once a month however he has been on his xmas leave for 2 weeks now and my libidos seem to have chosen this time to go awol. the 1st few days when he was home, we were fine, i wanted sex, enjoyed sex. but suddenly its just gone and as much as i try, i just dont want it. he's not helping issues by constantly pawing at me and whingeing that he's not getting it. he think's ive just decided not to give it to him. i do see his point that it has happened so suddenly but he cant seem to accept that it is something im not in control of at the minute. i think he thinks ive made up the word hormones. it really is getting to me as he is spending most of his time huffing now and he goes back on sunday. i can see he's doing a mental countdown for days left for him to have sex. has anyone else gone through this? what do i say to him to help him see its not personal.

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Nekabu · 30/12/2008 22:07

Google it then pass him the computer. You might like to mention in passing that pawing, whining and complaining aren't exactly top of the list of things that make women feel in the mood at the best of times, never mind when the hormones from hell have kicked in!

xxhunnyxx · 31/12/2008 11:36

I've got a book called ''The expectant father'' which explains what women go through whilst pregnant, including the fact that they may go off sex.
There's a few similar books around, maybe get him one?

Hawkmoth · 31/12/2008 12:58

Going to look for books! My OH said yesterday "Just because there's a baby in there doesn't change who you are" ARGH!!!!

Cherrybaby · 31/12/2008 19:52

You could do other naughty things without having sex...?

breaghsmum · 02/01/2009 13:28

thanks guys, ive done the whole "grow up, dont be so self absorbed" thing and he just huffed so it all came to a head the other night in bed and i tried really calmly to explain what i was and wasnt feeling and suggested he do some research of his own ( he has a strange aversion to reading anything out of a book.) so anyway i caught him the next day having a quick look on the internet and whatevers he's read seems to have worked. he's still having the odd wee whinge but i just remind him that its out of my control and he's fine.

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2manychips · 02/01/2009 14:47

During the 6 weeks healing time after dd's birth I kept dh happy with a lots of oral and assisted wanks! Half the time it got me going too.

brettgirl2 · 02/01/2009 18:08

They're all the same, even if they choose to cover it up. I caught my OH reading the blokes guide to pg in boots. It later transpired he had read the sections about breast changes and sex only.

breaghsmum · 03/01/2009 11:37

rofl at "breast changes and sex"!!! did the book have pictures by any chance? hehe thank you all for advice, he seems to be understanding a bit more now and the whingeing has ceased. why are they so hard to get throught to??

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