Hi Rosy
By coincidence, my dh is also a doctor. He was more relaxed about the statistics we were given as he deals with risk all the time as part of his job, whereas I was just adamant that I didn't want to have a child with DS.
I work with children and have worked with many DS children and seen what the families can go through. I know of people who felt they could cope if they had a DS child and opted not to have any tests (or to have tests so that they were forwarned) but the actuality of having a DS child was harder than they had thought.
As with many things, there is a huge range of ability in the DS population and you just have no guarantee about how severe the problems might be. My opinion through experience, not everyone would agree though.
I actually had my amnio this morning. I was very nervous about (a) potential pain (I'm not great with needles or pain) (b) complications. DH gave me some co-codamol about 20 mins before the procedure.
The sonographer lay me on the bed and had a look at the baby. She asked me if I wanted to see the screen and though I wasn't sure beforehand, I realised I didn't want to see the baby today. DH didn't feel the same (and on another level I don't think he'd ever seen an amnio performed before so probably had professional interest) so he actually watched.
First she checked the position of the baby/placenta and then had a look at the uterine wall to see whether it all looked "glued down" as she put it. Then she went to get the consultant and when he arrived she put a straw onto my stomach and applied some pressure to make a mark where she wanted the needle to go. The pressure of the straw was worse than the needle, actually.
The consultant put some cleaning gel on my stomach and positioned the needle just below my belly button (the position of the needle obviously depends on position of everything else - sonographer said it's more painful if it's closer to the cervix due to increased number of nerve endings). The needle honestly didn't hurt (I find blood tests painful) and I couldn't tell at what point it entered the uterus.
He showed me the fluid while it was still in the syringe (I didn't actually look though!) and then pulled the needle out (also not uncomfortable) and that was it. The sonographer had another look around and said everything looked okay (including the heart). Consultant said he was very pleased with how it had gone.
I was allowed to leave right away. They gave me some phone numbers to ring in case of spotting or loss of fluid. The results for DS will be available on monday afternoon and the full culture will be available in 3 weeks time.
Felt a bit faint afterwards and a bit tearful but think it was a combination of relief it was over and the effects of the co-codamol. I'm now at home resting (with the laptop, obviously!) and just keeping everything crossed. The statistic we were given was 1/168. We now also know the baby has a nasal bone and the heart looks okay.
Hope this is helpful