I just thought I'd ask for some advice here.
Every female in my family has had a history of horrific and long first time births. Tearing that has made it difficult to walk for weeks, post traumatic stress, incontinence etc etc... all leading to my fear of child birth.
I am 31 and have been married for 7 years. One of the major reasons I have not tried for a baby is due to my worry about giving birth. I recently found myself pregnant. My husband is v excited about the news and so am I but I now can't help myself but worry about what is going to happen in the future.
I know to some of you it is completely irrational but I just can't help myself worry about it. I don't like the feeling of matters going out of control. How long will it last? What complications will arise? etc etc.
This is my first pregnancy and although I don't have first hand experience of a EC or a natural birth I do feel that this would be the best option for me.
I think that I should be given a choice but feel that getting an elective caesarean on the NHS will be difficult due to my friends comments and a general opinion by many that you are somehow not a mother if you do go this route.
Please can anyone give any advice on how they got an EC and whether on NHS. How difficult it was? What were your reasons etc? I'd really appreciate any help. I do realise that it is not a walk in the park to have an EC too.