Fears in 2nd pregnancy

[LullyMummaOfOne]

Hi all, I have been posting a bit lately as i am feeling rather odd with this pregnancy. I already have a DS who will be 3 in March and this pregnancy is very much wanted and deep down i am very excited. I had my scan on Tuesday and all is fine, i though this would make me feel better about the whole thing but to be honest i just feel really crap.

My main fear is passing away during labour and leaving my Son & newborn baby. I cant just help but worry about what would happen if i was taken away. I know it sounds so strange but i am honestly so scard that i will die.

I am over weight and i worry that my body wont be able to cope with the extra pressure it will have the bigger the baby gets. I am a size 18 & 5ft 4ins so i know there are much larger ladies out there but just lately i have been having chest pain & findind it hard to catch my breath, im only 13 week PG so have a long way to go.

I dont really know what elso to say, i just hope someone can come along and brighten up my day. Has anyone else had these fears??

Hi Lully, not sure I have lots of reassuring words but I can say I feel the same.

I'm much more frightened than last time, on my way home from work last night I toyed with the idea of writing a letter to my DD in case the worse should happen. I have since stepped back slightly from the edge of lunacy and reminded myself that maternal death is very very very rare in the UK.

I'm also scared that this time I will have a horrendous labour, and not be able to breastfeed (if I and my baby make it). I know I'm being a bit silly but it's hard to push these feelings away.

Ultimately the stats say we will both be fine but don't ignore any health worries and def speak to your midwife about the chest pain and shortness of breath. I'm sure shortness of breath though even in early preg is normal and should settle.

Sending happy thoughts both our ways

I'm hoping it's pretty normal to feel like this.....
My ds is 16m and number 2 is due in 8 weeks and i have a real bad feeling, kind of like I have been so blessed with ds, surely I don't deserve anything more iyswim?
I'm not so scared of dying this time like I was with ds but I'm scared something will happen to my baby because by getting pregnant again I'm being greedy.
It sounds so silly doesn't it?

I hate it when people tell me it's just hormones, it sounds so patronising, but think that's got a lot to do with it. Pregnancy and childbirth are (hopefully) the most traumatic thing a woman will go through in her life, it has to be perfectrly normal to be a bit nervous about all possible outcomes, no matter how unlikely they are to happen

Oh it good to hear im not alone although i am sorry to hear that you both feel simular to me.

I now deep down everything will be ok, i havent really any reasons for concern but just feel like i cant enjoy this PG this time round though to so much worry.

Thanks for your kind words and all the best in your pregnancies

Anyone that says they don't have similar fears and concerns that we have just stated are liars IMO.
TBH, I haven't enjoyed this pg as much as ds's but think that's normal too, there isn't the excitment of the unknown this time, there's the knowledge of exactly how it's going to be.
You'll be fine and as the pregnancy progresses, it'll get better
Take care of yourself