Depression in early pregnancy

[Daisyk8t]

Hi guys,

I am new to Mumsnet but am looking for some "please say I am normal" type reassurance!

I'm two months pregnant (my second) and although we wanted this baby, a lot of the time I feel very down about everything. I am sick and tired most of the day (normal I know!) this time around, which is a first as I escaped all that last time. I am irritable with my son and my husband and cannot get excited about the baby. It all feels very unreal.

Did this happen to anyone else? I'm hoping things will get better after the scan - at least I will know everything looks OK and can maybe start to "invest" in the baby a bit more.

This is so, so familiar to me. I came close to seeing my GP because I was so very down. I was also a complete nutter, crying all the time, finding tiny inconveniences a cause of enormous distress and generally found life very difficult and not fun. It's a crap time because it's usually still a secret at that stage so you can't tell people, and you're also maybe feeling a bit insecure until you've had a scan and like you say you can allow yourself to get into the whole thing.

Some of the memories of that stage are really bad ones actually, I hated it, but come 15 weeks I was totally delighted to become normal again - I felt hugely better and actually started to be enthusiastic about the whole palaver!

It's hormones, and normal, but really rotten. Try to look after yourself as much as possible, rest and relax where you can and chalk off the weeks.

Welcome, by the way!

Hi!!

Sounds entirely normal to me - I think it';s pretty difficult to feel sparky when you feel like poo most of the time!! i felt foul, rotten, miserable and generally horrid whilst the morning sickness lasted and as soon as that lifted I felt so, so much better. With ds I felt ill til 22 weeks so it was a long old haul - dd1 and dd2 were quicker though and my mood def improved in each pg at the same time (MS stopping)

Good luck and congratulations!
x

Thank you! That is just what I am doing.

I kind of know it is hormones, but I am a bit of a "glass half empty" type and was wondering if it might mean you are more likely to suffer from post-natal depression or something... But that is just negative thinking because I am feeling down! Vicious circle stuff.

It's good to hear straight away that other people have the same thing though - sorry! - but thank you.

Daisy I have been depressed in the past, pre-children but when I had a lot of stuff going on in my life, and was on medication for a while. I too was worried when I felt those familiar feelings of despondency during early pregnancy. I fretted that I would suffer from PND.

However, despite DS being the most unspeakably difficult, miserable, sleepless baby and his first 6 months being the most traumatic time of my life, I didn't get depressed. It may sound flippant but I don't think I had the time or the energy . So it's not inevitable, try not to worry.