How did you tell your DH/DP the news about 1st pregnancy?

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I have just found out I am pregnant - 4 weeks! Am really excited, it is my first. I am nervous about telling DP (of 5 years) the news - partly because he's only in the last 6 months-year come round to the idea of having a baby and also because I told him it would take months to get pregnant and its been rather quick. he might be shocked.

Shall I wait til Saturday when we will have nice time together - going out for meal, going for a walk together. Otherwise, we are both out the next few nights - separately.

i want to tell him now - can't bear keeping secret but want him to respond well and be happy!!

Love to hear how you did it, what words you used, etc

I also wanted to do it in a nice romantic setting but was SO shocked and excited about getting a BFP when I tested on the off-chance in the ad break of Corrie I squealed for him to come upstairs.

He rushed up to the bathroom, brush-in-hand and covered in paint from decorating, to find me grinning from ear to ear and begging him to check that my eyes weren't going funny and that it was indeed a big red +. After celebratory cuddles I got paint all over me but didn't care a bit!

So I will admire your patience if you can wait until Saturday

Congratulations!

Your situation is very much like mine was, wasnt expecting it to happen so quickly etc.

Personally, I wouldnt go down the 'you're going to be a father! Woo hoo!' route as men can take a bit of getting used to the idea, and as you dont look any different, sometimes find it hard to beleive. You dont want to overwhelm him!

I stuck to more of an emphasis on 'I'm pregnant, we've got a little secret between us for the next few weeks, how exciting' and then started on the 'you're going to be an actual father with loads of responsibilities' once he's seen the 12 week scan and could really believe it.

Some people do v inventive things, but I think, as it's your first and I think I can totally empathise with your situation, you should run (carefully) with the stick in your hand and just go 'oh my god oh my god, I had this feeling and oh wow look, it's postive - your swimmers are amazing darling!' as soon as possible. Pretend you've just done it if he's already home...

and then watch him smile, because the woman he loves most in the world, has just complimented his sperm.

I was being assessed at a gynae clinic query some kind of mass. Dh flew off to a meeting in Paris, know that I was likely to be admited for same day surgery but i told him there was no use him being around as he would be no use while i was in hospital. rang him at 11am to tell him I was pregnant he thought I was ringing to say i was going to theatre! it was another few days until he got back from paris so it had time to settle in. I was as shocked as he was as had so many negative pg tests!

I was working from home, felt a bit odd, realised my period was overdue, and got BFP. I thought about waiting until DH got home and couldn't wait to tell him. So phoned him and said 'I did a test this morning, and it's positive'. Luckily he's a fairly perceptive chap and knew what I was talking about .

When he came home from work he came straight over to give me a big hug, with grin on his face. Was still a bit shellshocked tho...

Thanks so much to you all for your messages, really appreciate.

DP should be home in a few hours. I am beginning to feel 'lonely' with my 'secret' so think I will tell him later. Have done 3 tests in last 24 hours so could show him any one of those! I have completely irregular periods (just one since coming off pill in March 2007) so this baby is a miracle.

Millie26 - you're absolutely right about the approach to take: 'woo hoo you're a father' needs to wait as it might all be a bit much for him, plus better to wait til we know the baby is safe and sound.

By the way, did you wait to tell friends/families til your scan (and how many weeks is the scan at?). I am longing to tell my sis and best friend..

Sooo excited - thanks for your messages again

It's so exciting isnt it? Uncannily, my periods were completly shot to pieces too and I only ovulated once in 8 months so pretty pleased with my 25 weeks pregnant status at the moment!

We told our families at about 6 weeks to be a bit safer and then close friends a bit after that as I had terrible morning sickness and they thought there was something deradfully wrong with me.

Told everyone else at 13 weeks after scan. I'm v paranoid though - I've got a friend who just announced her 7 week pregnancy through her Facebook status...

PS - Just to add, I think the telling people thing should be dictated by your feelings if something went wrong.

I know that sounds awful, but I chose not to tell my parents til after 6 weeks because I wouldnt have wanted the fuss, but I told my BF because I would have told her if I'd miscarried anyway.

Your sis and bf are probably just the right people to tell girls are much better at being excited about these things generally...