Panic attacks starting again so so fed up :(

[Fiveplusbump]

I have suffered from PA since 2002 ,they started during my pregnnacy with dd3 ,I actually thought I had a heart problem or asthma but have had checks and am fit and well .
I was so proud of myself because over the past couple of years I have managed to control them and when I feel them starting I can mainly stop them getting bad .
This morning I had a bad one and I have been having small ones on and off all morning ,I feel very teary, frightened and tired .
Pregnancy does seem to make my panic attacks take over a bit ,but I have had some issues with dp's family after getting some nasty texts and emails from and an argument kicked off last night over stuff that happened ages ago which is really between dp and them not me ,I have been called some nasty things but I am trying not to let dp know how upset I am because he wants to cut contact woth them and I know he will regret it in the future .
Just having a bad day and need to vent I think .

Dear Fiveplusbump...so sorry for you.
Listen - don't protect your husband from how you really feel. He sounds like he will stand by and want to look after and support you, so please let him do this - for you and your children. If he chooses to cut contact with them, it sounds like this will be the final straw rather than the sole reason, so don't beat yourself up about it. I also think he would be perfectly reasonable to decide not to have anythign to do with anyone, family or not, who treated his partner badly. I know my husband would have major issues with someone sending me nasty messages - and I would if it were him. So...all I'm saying is, you need extra support just now, so let him provide it.
It may also be worth letting your GP/midwife know about the history of attacks and their sudden increase. They may be able to help you...

Hope someone or something can make you feel happier and more in control of yourself.

Flirty x

Hi,

Sorry to hear you're a bit down. PA are a bitch, excuse my french, i suffer with them too. Have done for the last 7 years. Mine are from nerves - had a really bad time in secondary school and ended up being diagnosed with anxiety and PA. I had counselling to help me to deal with them which helped. I still get them now. I'm a bad person for change, i work and even if someone decides to have a day off, i get all worried because the dynamic of the office changes. Sometimes it gets so bad that i cant sleep, eat or focus for worry about what the day will be like. In the extreme cases, i get a PA and then have to make myself calm down.

I try to focus on good things, for example if i know im in for a crap day, i make something fun for myself in the evening like watching a film or seeing a friend for a coffee - helps me get thru my day. When it comes to the inlaws, that is seriously hard. I've been with my DP for 5 yrs and only now am i starting to get on with them, it is still awkward. Pregnancy makes it worse coz of the hormones too. I am due today and weeks ago i sat and sobbed my eyes out in front of DP panicking coz of "what will happen at xmas?!" My family are close, his arent, where will we be, who will we offend by choosing the other set etc etc. In the end when i calmed down we decided to do what we wanted. We've chosen to spend xmas just us and told both our families the same thing "u wanna see the baby on xmas - u come here". Up to them then what they do!

Keep your chin up

Poor you.Feelings of anxiety and panic are thr worst thing.It will passit will get better.Try to reduce the stress around you and conflict.Think of the other attacks which then went away.Restor go for walk if you think it may help.Hope you're ok .

Thankyou all ,I am feeling a bit better I have had a wash and got dressed and made dd some dinner I have decided that a day in front of the tv and lots of cuddles wont hurt for once.

I will try and find the Paul Mckenna book so thanks for that .

I think the thing that gets me most is the tiredness that comes with it you can't explain it unless you have felt it yourself its just a draining feeling .

Dp is die home from work early and he is very understanding about the PA .He is very angry with his family and I realise its up to him if he wants to cut contact I just know that I will end up getting the blame for it and be accused of pushing him into it ,but I have to let him make his mind up.

Thanks all again and good luck with the baby babylove

Thanks Five

Hope everything works well for you.

As a current sufferer of panic, anxiety and fear, I can only repeat what I have been told. Panic has to be managed and not controlled. Accept that you are in panic and remind yourself as often as you need to (1000 times works for me)

THIS FEELING TOO SHALL PASS like everything else in life.

You are not in panic, it is just the feeling of panic passing through you.

I'm kinda going through the same thing with dh who is cutting contacts with his mum.
At the moment though I think the most important thing for us is our pregnancy, including avoiding arguments, not getting stressed, so cutting contacts might not be a bad thing even if it's just temporarily, just for your and the baby's sake.