Pregnant again after miscarriages..

[irisfire]

Hubby and I have lost 2 confirmed pregnancies in the last 14 months and had another suspected miscarriage. We have just discovered we are expecting again.. which is great right? Only I'm terrified that I'm going to lose this one too.. hubby doesn't think it's such a good idea after everything we went through last time but that hurts me quite a lot because this, despite my fear, is a blessing to me. We have the chance that this could be a normal uncomplicated pregnancy. He hasn't said much to me about it apart from that and when I do talk about it he doesn't really say much, my friend thinks he is just worried about me after all we have gone through but I don't feel as though I have his support at the moment. It's almost like he's not acknowledging that this is happening. I know I should talk to him and I do try but I'm scared that his mind is made up and he doesn't want this for us. Sorry, ranting a little but so confused!

My DH only warmed up to DS when he was born 6weeks ago, this is after 2 mcs. I dont have any helpful tips I'm afraid but I wanted to let you know you are not alone.

Also have you looked at the pregnacy after MC thread. It is full of women just like you. I dont know how I would have got through this pregnancy without the support from the lovely but slightly mad knicker checkers.

CONGRATULATIONS. It is a wonderfull thing. Try to enjoy it

irisfire first of all congratulations - the first trimester (and the 2nd and the 3rd) are a horrible time after mc. We all deal with our emotions differently and need lots of tlc and support to get through this time.

I know what you are going through as am 18wks pg with 4th pg in 16months. My DH is not big on talking about his feelings and this has been a really tough year.

The best advice is to take one day at a time. Don't think too far in the future just now otherwise you'll drive yourself crazy. I found this time the horrible panic feelings were slightly less after 12wk scan but constantly have at the back of my mind the scars of previous losses.

Come and join us on knicker checkers - I found that thread was a life saver and could talk about my worries and anxieties to them rather than DH. FWIW he needed to stay optimistic and I needed to fret - maybe your DH is finding ot too painful to talk about it at the moment.

we're here come and join the mad squad.

I was just looking at mine this morning and wondering what's going on in his head!! We only just found out last weekend so are only about 4+4, but when I do talk about it, he just nods or grunts - doesn't add anything to the conversation, changes the subject, etc. I think he probably doesn't want to get his hopes up either by talking about it too much. Right now no one knows except for us and MN! () so I'm at a bit of a loss as I don't have an outlet! Do you think you might confide in a friend or relative so that you can at least talk to someone else about how you're feeling? Congratulations! I hope you can enjoy your pregnancy! (easier said than done I know!)