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DD only wants a sister

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bellyfull · 11/11/2008 11:45

I am expecting no. 4 and DD only wants a sister (she has 2 younger brothers). From the moment she was told of new baby she has been calling it her sister and refers to my bump as baby girl. I don't want to find out the sex and I am hoping that when baby comes along she will be fine with whatever takes her fancy. There have been numerous tears at the prospect of yet another brother... Any positive stories please!!

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morningpaper · 11/11/2008 11:47

PERSONALLY I would find out the sex so you can let her know in advance

Otherwise you will have a lot to deal with when the baby is born

tonton · 11/11/2008 11:54

I agree with Morningpaper - get scanned. When I was pregnant DD1 wanted a sister and DH wanted a son so I got a scan to check. Very glad I did as DH was disappointed to find out it was a girl. And there's no way I could have handled that sort of nonsense after childbirth!

I may say that having wanted a sister so badly after being an only for 6 years...DD1 would happily send DD2 back to where she came from!

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bellyfull · 11/11/2008 11:59

Thank you, what I have started doing is telling her that I really feel it is a boy. And how special to be the only girl in the family! But maybe you are right, maybe I should find out. My only worry is that she will then be really sad for the next few months. I was hoping that it wouldn't matter when she actually saw the baby. I never found out with the other 3 (although DH was positive he saw a willy on the scan with DS2). I would be worried about telling her if it was a boy after the scan. My gut is telling me I am having a girl but not sure if that is just my DD convincing me that it is!!

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Chooster · 11/11/2008 12:03

It may be an idea to find out but perhaps not tell her. At least then you can definately say things like "how great would it be to be the only girl" and "if its a boy at least you wont have a sister borrowing all your things" etc... The danger of saying that when you genuinely dont know is that you could convince her so much that a brother would be good that she may not want a sister if thats what it is . Why not find out then you can decide what you want to do with DD.

frazzledoldbag34 · 11/11/2008 12:26

My neice was adamant all through my sisters pregnancy that all she wanted was a baby sister. She already had a little brother and defintely didn't want another brother.
When the baby was born a boy, she came to hospital and was told 'you've got a brother!'.
And bless her, she said 'Oh, that's just what I've always wanted'.
And she's loved him to bits ever since.

(by the way, they have just had No4 and she has now got a new baby sister and is very jealous of her........work that one out!!)

Also I agree with tonton - my DD was 5 when DD2 came along. Having been desperate for a baby sister, I think she'd now happily send her back too!!!!!! or swap her for a brother instead!

Best of luck x

SammyK · 11/11/2008 12:32

I second finding out for your DD, my sister had a smiliar situation, her ds wanted a brother, they found out the sex to prepre him and he cried for two days straight when he found out it was another sister!!

Thankfully though they then had months to point out all the positives of the situation, and when baby arrived he was as pleased as everyone else.

I think having a new born and an upset four year old would be a bit much TBH, siblings don't feel that rush of love us mums and dads feel.

PerkinWarbeck · 11/11/2008 12:32

Friends of mine had a similar issue. Their DD only wanted a brother. They decided to find out the sex, and were very grateful for the 20 weeks they had in which to convince her that a sister would be alright after all.

ohIdoliketobebesidethe · 11/11/2008 12:38

Our dd desperately wanted a sister (even though she already had one). Would never accept the possibility it was a boy when I was pregnant. Referred to bump as girl etc. Baby brother arrived and we've never looked back. She loves him to bits and is v. proud of him.

frazzledoldbag34 · 11/11/2008 12:38

My DD1 is also desperate for the baby i'm having in May to be a brother.
She has a baby sister already (who, I've already said she would probably happily swap for a pet hamster or in particular a brother).
I've warned her that the chances are high that it will be another sister (75% I believe if you have 2 of the same sex to have another one?) - and I am considering finding out at my 20wks scan so I can prepare her (not tell her the sex, but do some convincing if it's another girl). I'm not sure why she thinks a baby brother will be so wonderful!
(I'm the only one in the family who isn't bothered what it is - DD1 wants a brother and DH wants a third girl. DD2 is only 2 and hasn't got a clue what's going to hit her!) Someone is going to be disappointed!

changer22 · 11/11/2008 12:39

When I had baby number 3 (we have DS (4), then DD(2)) DS was adamant he wanted a brother.

DD2 duly came along and when I phoned from the hospital to tell my mum who was looking after the children I heard her tell them they had a baby sister. 'Bang' went the downstairs loo door followed by wailing. My mum was saying 'he'll be alright, don't worry, well done,...' asked about her hair, etc. and then a couple of minutes later he came on the phone and said 'Hello mummy, well done, I love you' or some such nice words. He charged into hospital to see her and is her number 1 best mate!

I'm now expecting number 4 and he has asked for a brother as he 'needs a sidekick'! He also has said he needs a hand coping with 'all these girls'!

We shall wait and see (I never find out at the scan)...

motherinferior · 11/11/2008 12:39

DD1 announced she was getting a sister. But frankly would have adored either flavour. She's a generous soul.

sweetkitty · 11/11/2008 12:43

When pregnant for the third time DD1 was so adamant she wanted a sister, the prospect of a brother horrified her, she said she would send him back. I said to her maybe Daddy would like a boy as he is the only boy she replied but we have 2 boy cats!

We all went for the scan and she got her baby sister, she came out the scan room turned round and said "I TOLD you it was a girl"

Now she wants a brother...................

Tommy · 11/11/2008 12:45

a friedn of mine had this. She was on number 5 and had one daughter who wanted a sister. She did find out at the scan (more for bedroom planning than anything else!) and didn't tell her daughter outright but implied that she thought it may be another boy by syaing "I know you want a sister but I think this one may be another boy? on't you think the bump looks the same as the others?" etc and when the baby came, big sister wasn't too disappointed.

FWW, my DSs wanted a baby sister but were both completely delighted when DS3 came along!

Fennel · 11/11/2008 14:20

When I was pregnant with my 3rd, dd3, my dd1 wanted a dog and dd2 wanted a brother. So noone was happy (except me). They were fine with the reality though.

Though they all still want a dog and a baby brother and (on a bad day) no sisters. They imagine a baby brother would be sweet and malleable and never answer back or challenge them. Not like their pesky sisters.

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