Terrified of miscarriage

[elle5]

Hi I am new to this site and very impressed. I am 7 weeks pregnant whole time having back and abdomen cramps. I am on my second urine inf and taking antibiotics. Had a red bleed on friday turning darker and stopped. Had scan and heartbeat visible. (totally amazing and upsetting at same time) Pains havent let up at all and now have thrush. This little baby trouble already. Has anyone out there had constant back and bladder pains?? I am so terified we are going to miscarry we hav been trying to conceive for two and half years, this baby is very precious to us as you can inagine. xx

I had lots of similar pains at similar time of pregnancy. Didn;t know I was pregnant and was in and out of doctors with pains then got news we were having baby.

I was TERRIFIED for most of the pregnancy about losing the baby and this seems to be natural. It gets easier as you go along.

I guess what I want to tell you is that we now have a bouncing,\healthy one year old and its likely you'll all be fine! keep following medical advise but try and enjoy as much as you can.

Best wishes

Aww thanks for your reply. Did you have any bleeds at all? When did your pains subside mine have been constant for 7 weeks x

Hi I have had two missed miscarragies and I am now pregnant again only 5 weeks. I have already 3 children who are 5, 2 and 1. The one year old I had lots of bleeding from about 6 weeks until I was about 10 weeks. It was horrible and thought I would loose her but shes is fine and I just wanted you to know just because you bleed it doesn't always mean you are miscarrying. good luck

did you have back pain or cramps? any solutions to relieve pain?

yes I did i had very very bad cramps which were horrible. There isn't really much you can do. I would suggest a long warm bath that would help and try and stay relaxed as thats the best thing you can do for your baby.

I had very bad cramps at the beginning and was terrified too. I am not going to pretend that the fear goes away totally it is always in the back of my head. But it did get a LOT easier after my 12 week scan.

I hope very very much that your little bean sticks around and the cramps are just him/her digging in deeper (Thats how I like to think back on mine!)

There are a lot of people around on this forum who have been desperate to concieve and as a result know how you feel. From what I hear the fear is normal so dont beat yourself up over it.

Be strong elle5

i have had all sorts of troubles in my pgs.you name it,its happened.

Hoping that little one hangs on for you sweetheart

xxx

Hi and Congratulations!
I have 2 DC's and had 1 mmc. Pregnancy with DS, I had loads of aches and pains but pretty normal. DD was completely different. I had several urine infections and food poisoning, so really sympathise with you . I also had a few bleeds (dark and bright red) but DD was born healthy. My middle pregnancy was my mmc. Again I had a few small bleeds but no pains or sickness. ime (and everyone's different) pains are all an annoying but reassuring part of a healthy pregnancy. Try not to worry (easier said than done) and don't worry about pestering your MW that's what they are there for

Hi all
This is a reassuring post. I have also been getting bad cramps - exactly like bad period pain. I am about 6 weeks and have been worried because they eased off for a while but have been getting quite bad recently, waking me up in the middle of the night etc. As far as I understand you can take paracetemol but should obviously try to avoid doing so too often.

I think the worst thing is there is no way to tell what is going on. I know if the pain gets worse you may be having a m/c, also red bleeding can be a bad sign ... but from reading these and other posts, these things in no way mean you have definitely had a m/c.

I personally am also fairly worried about my cramps and although I have had no bleeding yet, I did a test with a bit of tissue and it had small globs of brownish gunk on - sorry, TMI . I know it can take a couple of weeks before the bleeding comes.

What about using a pregnancy test to confirm? Does anyone know how long the pregnancy hormone stays in your blood for? I use the NHS strips you can get from eBay, so the concentration of the positive line is directly linked with the amount of pregnancy hormone in your blood. I also saw advertised recently a Clear Blue test that tells you how many weeks pregnant you are, perhaps this also would be a good test about the amount of pregnancy hormone? It is the not knowing what is going on which is driving me mad, at least if I knew I was not m/c ing, I could relax which I am sure in turn would be better for my bean.

I wake up every morning and I am terrified to go to the loo!! The shine has been taken from my first pregnancy as the pain is constant, I have been on morphine, dyhyracodeine, co-dyramol, co-codamol, amoxicillin, canesten pessarys and paracetamol and NOTHING helps the pain. Still got slight watery red bleeding which I know can be quite normal. I also have an enlarged Corpus luteal cyst which is agony. Next 5 weeks before I get my 12 week scan are going to be the worst weeks ever! My husband has been so supportive but doesnt stop the worry. x

Hi Elle
Do you need to go to the hospital or doctors?

Had a scan on Friday and the heartbeat was there, they dont know why I am bleeding, putting it down to hormones and my body changing due to pregnancy. Considering calling my midwife. Been off work for 3 weeks now and the lies are catching up with me. Dont want peope to know I pregnanat incase things go wrong.

I am at the stage where I cant face the hospital, NHS 24 or docs
Thanks Violetrain
Elle

All you can do is think positive , and that is what you must do. I know how you feel.

Have you had a similar experience Kalo12?

i've had miscarriages. got a lovely ds now but was worrying through that pregnancy, but then my mum told me that thinking positive is the only thing you can do yourself to affect the outcome (other than usual healthy eating stuff). And if its a mc then you will deal with that when it happens.

the weeks go slow at this stage don't they.
drink lots of water and put your feet up.

I agree with Kalo, but I think you need to have a good think about whether you should call the midwife/NHS etc or not. Either you do and face what they have to say (good or bad), or, you chose not to. If you do you must take on board what they say, they do know what they're talking about. If you chose not to you mustn't worry about what is going on with your body as that would just be counter-productive. If you make the decision not to call you must just put your feet up and think positively, as Kalo says.

What do people think about the pregnancy test, how long does the hormone stay in your blood for?

Phoned my midwife and there is nothing they can do I have just to keep my fingers crossed!!!! Unless I bleed again I have to persevere with the pain - not a great help. Wouldnt recommend any form of massage either!!! Plan to return to work as that keeps my mind off things and let nature take its course!!! Whether it be good or bad!! So upset cant cope with the fear of losing my precious baby !!

Is massage bad for you if pregnant? I thought okay if you didn't use essential oils??

I hope you are okay. Lots of rest and try not to think the worst. Take some paracetemol for the pain.

My midwife was quite guarded about the massage thing. Will defo have to get my hubby to rub me thoguh!! I have taken co-codamol for the pain so hopefully that will help. Trying to keep positive. This site has helped me so, so much. Its true life experiences first hand that count. Thanks to you all so far for your much appreciated advice. I find it hard speakign to doctors or nurses who havent even had any kids themselves. My midwife said she wasnt really into chldren that much - how deflated did that make me feel!!! x