The dog tired bit of early pregnancy - how did you get through it?

[ChukkyPig]

I've just hit the knackered bit and am feeling v sorry for myself. Just put DD out in the garden for a runaround while I watched from indoors - I just couldn't raise the energy to go with her. Feel really bad about it she's only 15mo. I think it's going to get worse before it gets better - last time was dire and I didn't have a toddler then.

So how did you get through it? I just have to grit my teeth and get on with it don't I ...

Me too.

I'm 9 weeks with a daughter of 3yrs. I work 3 days a week plus freelancing and effectively have 3 jobs. Husband works shifts, frequently works the entire weekend. Both our mothers work every day and offer absolutely no support at the weekend.

Today I really struggled. We had a plasterer in correcting some problems in our kitchen. He was tidy but the whole place is now covered in dust. Had to take my daughter to Tumbletots this afternoon (half hour drive each way) and when we got back I just lay on the sofa and we watched Mary Poppins.

Snuck off into the kitchen and ate some ice cream but she caught me....

Then DH phoned and said he won't be home from work until 10pm due to an emergency. Amazed I could hear a word he was saying as DD was having a huge tantrum about not wanting to go for a bath.

I guess you just have to take every day (or hour) as it arrives. Lots of TV being watched here, which makes me especially depressed as the weather is too crap for her to play in the garden. This time last year we were living in the Australian sunshine, what a contrast.

Seriously considering phoning in sick thins week....what do you reckon?

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Sympathy here too.

Am 10 weeks with DS (3) and working 3 days a week. DH commutes so during the week it's all down to me. No daytime naps anymore.

I could sleep and sleep and sleep.

Have been dozing off on the sofa while DS plays and using the power of DVD more often than normal.

Am abusing friends hospitality as much as possible and just trying to get through it really.

At least the morning sickness has faded.

Yawn - bedtime very soon.

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Shit isn't it?

My kitchen is covered in plaster dust. The problem is that I DO care!

Ah feck it, two days off sick won't be too bad. Haven't had any time off sick yet at all. DD can go to nursery.

Symapthy to everyone else. Thank goodness for mumsnet, I know I'm not alone.

So glad I found this thread! I am hormonally teary reading it, knowing I am not the only one.

I am 9 weeks and feel crap, have done since 5 weeks. I did not feel anywhere near this awful with DS who is 2.7

Constant nausea and absolute exhaustion. I can't even be bothered going outside. I normally love doing things with DS and have loads of energy but I am just getting through the days at the moment. More TV and my house is ugly (relying on nesting phase later to sort it out!)

This is a much wanted baby and little sibling for DS but I just can't get excited about it at the moment. Of course I still want the baby and I was panic stricken when I had a bleed at 6 weeks (had an early scan) but I am hoping I will look a little more forward to things when I feel better.

It sucks being a woman sometimes! I just don't do pregnancy very well

Hi, I'm also struggling, sickness just hit me badly. I have a 5 year old boy who has just started year r at school. I have a 2 and a half year old boy who is such a handful and he has terrible twos like you wouldn't believe. I also have a little girl who turned 1 last week. I am 5+4 weeks pregnant and feel horrible. I work 2 days a week. I also am studying aat(accounting) and have final exams in 3 weeks. I feel so tired all the time, just don't know where I will find time to revise and have the added stress and worry of having another mmc as have had 2 previously one of which was in July and was identical twins. So right now everything feels to much for me, I am happy to be pregnant again but just feel very weepy all the time. Sorry for the moaning but sometimes my husband doesn't understand and don't really have anyone else to talk to.

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Blimey Lizzie....I can't be nearly as exhuasted as you!

On a more cheerful note, here are things that make me feel better at the moment:

Ribena
Jelly Tots
Strictly Come Dancing
My mum

Anyone else?

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christina - I was thinking about an early scan but probably not as things could still go wrong after it, think I'm just going to wait for 12 week scan even though it seems so far away. are you having an early scan then?

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Blimey hi all! Strangely reassuring to see so many of us are in the same boat

I just came on to say I am feeling extra sorry for myself as I've come down with a stinking cold on top of everything else, but actually some of you sound like you are having a really dreadful time...

So rather than expecting sympathy I'll give some to everyone else!

{sympathetic vibes}

I could not have got through it without the DVD player in our bedroom. Whack on a DVD for DD, whilst I sleep for an hour or so. Bliss.
DD loved the cuddles too.
I slept on the bus to and from work too. It was an hour each way, so as long as I woke up before my stop or didn't have to alight early to puke , that was a nice little nap.

Hi

Moan alert....
Definitely a big fan of the chocolate.

Can I add a word of warning about letting the housework slip, it's fine if the nesting instinct kicks in but mine seems to have developed into a new form of nesting - decided that we needed to expand our cardboard box of a bathroom. Have 6 weeks til dc#2 due, house FULL of dust and noisy plumbers and a grouchy 22 m.o. toddler. Loving the fact that I'm still at work - avoiding dust - but concerned that DC #2 may rock up early and think everyone lives on a building site.

The worst bit is that it is all my own fault! Can't even blame dh.

hey ho, loving the 9pm bedtime - as long as home from work by then.

Sorry about the whinging

Me too - 9 wks pregnant with DC3 and been feeling sh*t for what seems like forever. When I was pregnant with DD2, DD1 hadn't started nursery yet so we could hunker down indoors in front of the TV on bad days. Now DD1 is a school I have to somehow get to school and back twice a day regardless of how bad I feel.

Trying to keep the pregnancy a secret (miscarried earlier this year so really don't want everyone to know just yet) but its getting harder to put on a brave face in the playground. I look "like death warmed up" to quote one of the other mums. There's only so many times I can get away with cold/virus/migraine. One of them has guessed already.

Some days the walk to school at 3.15 feels like climbing a mountain. Like everyone else, for me this baby is so wanted but struggling so much with this early stage and two small children, particularly with not being able to tell anyone whats wrong. Hoping I start to feel better soon.

Ooh I sympathise. I am 12+ weeks and still exhausted ( desperate for bed now). I have 2 DD's aged 10 & 4 and work full-time, so usually collapse at 8.30 when I finally get them both into bed!!! Zzzzzzzzzz

Erm... I feel guilty here because I'm actually a bit further on than most people seem to be - 26 weeks pg with #2, and dd is 12 months old. I'm shattered. I agree that the early weeks were awful because of the tiredness/sickness, but for me the tiredness has just continued. Admittedly I don't feel that I just can't move which I did feel in the early weeks, but can I drag myself out of bed in the mornings? If we can get out of the house by 10am I think I'm doing well... I feel so slow and achey all the time - really feel sorry for my dd!! Getting down on the floor to change her nappy is increasingly difficult, and I can barely lift her now. How do people manage? Everyone seems to somehow, but I really wish I had someone around to offer a helping hand. Hope everyone is resting now - off to bed myself!

Just back from a long weekend - cut short because I'm such a disaster area.

My parents have a flat at the seaside and DH took weds-sun off work, I took weds off (work mon-weds) and the 3 off us went off. DH had to do everything packing-wise and tidying up and getting DD ready etc then drive us down there 2.5 hours (I usually drive as DH drives for a living and so I felt pretty guilty).

When we got there I felt rubbish and got worse and worse and in the end we decided to call it a day and come home as no-one was exactly enjoying themselves. So poor old DH had to pack everything up and drive us home again...

I still feel dreadful and am really dreading work on Mon...

The only thing I keep trying to remember is that I know this will pass, it did last time, and I was pretty perky for the second trimester.

Hope everyon else is doing OK...

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Thanks christiana I am feeling a bit sorry for myself. I am very lucky in that morning sickness doesn't seem to get me, just this bloody knackeredness...

Still only about 5 weeks to go (hopefully)...

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i think the cold is passing though so now i feel just knackered rather than knackered and miserable. So that's an improvement.

Really wouldn't be up for dinner, feel sorry for you, i don't think I'll be leaving the house this weekend.

Getting a bit short with DD too which isn't really fair, she can'r understand why mummy is just sitting on the sofa and won't go and do stuff with her.

Hope tonight is OK for you.

Christina - hi just wondered if you had your scan friday and how it went

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