Need a slap - fretting about mc

[Mij]

I've become a neurotic wreck. I'm usually the pragmatic type.

I'm 5wks pg tomorrow. Started to get slight nausea and twingey stomach Monday and Tuesday, and felt a bit tired. I'm bfing DD1 (2.4) and latching is a bit less comfy but I haven't got sore boobs otherwise.

Still feeling a little spacey but pg symptoms seem to have lessened. With PG1 I had almost no symptoms until 7 or so wks.

It could be that many mates have had mcs with first and subsequent babies, but this time round I'm really fretting about mc, particularly missed mc. No idea why. And then what did I go and do? Check out some threads about it. Well, now I'm a jibbering wreck and only just stopped myself calling the GP asking for an early scan.

And based on what, exactly? That I haven't really felt a tiny bit nauseous the last couple of days ffs.

Please, someone give me a slap.

Slap!!!

But really, I think it's only natural, and we all do it. I didn't start to relax about 1st pregnancy until 24+ when it felt baby really was 'viable'.

18+6 now and still feeling twitchy and worrying. I think one of the pregnancy hormones is directly worry linked!

God yes, I'd forgotten that I barely allowed myself to breathe before 24wks first time around. I would occasionally wander into baby-stuff shops, potter around and then leg it out the door unable to pick up anything, let alone buy it. Not helped, of course, by the fact that I barely had a bump and bloody shop assistants were forever asking, 'looking for a present..?'

Oh well, will have to embark upon displacement activity for several weeks. The house might even get cleaned. Woohoo!

Post PG hormones definitely have an amnesia effect. My memory is that I really enjoyed being pregnant, in spite of nausea well into the second trimester and indigestion through almost all of it, and my recently remembered paranoia that it was going to go wrong. But maybe I was actually really uptight and that's normal PG behaviour for me!

I worried my way through the first 14 weeks, people kept asking why I wasn't excited but I was just worried the whole time - never been pregnant before and was still shocked we managed it so was constantly checking for blood and trying to resign myself to accepting it might not stay.
I think it is quite normal, it must be really hard with all the hormones from your breastfeeding too, I hope that you get through the next few weeks and are able to relax a bit.

Thanks, finding that having to deal with a toddler is quite a good way to stop worrying. Haven't got the headspace I had first time around. In fact, I keep forgetting I'm PG when I'm with her. Half way up a really big climbing frame today I suddenly thought 'shit, I'm pregnant, perhaps I shouldn't be up here!'

Ooh, I'm just a mass of contradictions at the moment, me!

i felt exactly the same with my second, my first was only 4 months old when i fell again, and i spent 3 months worrying...
try not to, its hard i know, im on my third(only 4 weeks!!) and am making myself sick AGAIN with worry!

I think its a completely normal part of keeping your emotions in check should something happen; you don't really want to let yourself go and get excited until you are sure its ok. I had the same this time round (30 weeks now with number 2). First time I was jumpy til 7 months! This time it got better after 15 weeks. Don't beat yourself up about it. I got some brown leakage at 11 weeks and went and read all the brown discharge threads which did me no favours. I was also BF'ing DD and worried about that causing miscarriage and also that lifting/hefting her around would cause trouble. Thankfully past all that now, but know exactly where you are coming from. Take it easy though; the first three months AND breastfeeding a toddler are exhausting.

Hi Natty, just seen you on the July08 thread! Nice to know I'm not alone...