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moaninhore twins update

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moaninhore · 06/11/2008 17:27

hi,
I've changed the thread title although I'm a bit that people are asking me to update as I' usually such a lurker and so it feels odd to be talking about me....

today was hard, after 3 days of not talking about the session we had with Pam I finally confronted dh by telling him I needed to talk to him about how he felt about the session....and the babies....and everything.
it didn't go well, having spent nearly 6 weeks in denial and the last 3 days hiding from me but seemingly at rock bottom, he went off like a pressure cooker and smashed up the kitchen. The kids were in bed and at school and I was in the next room but it sared me a lot. He was then in a heap on the floor.

I left the house and sat in the car where I phoned his mum and asked her to come and collect him. about an hour later he went off down the path with his mum and his overnight bag looing like a little boy. my heart totally broke for him, I just get the feeling this is about so much more than just the babies and I'm scared.

on a lighter note though I have told a few good friends about the babies and they are so very excited for me

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moaninhore · 06/11/2008 17:32

hi mel, well thankfully the sickness is not so bad as it was, this week I have started to show, I look like I usually would at 5 months. I havn't told the other children yet either.
I just swing from feeling happy about the babies and excited to feeling, well, very depressed really. it's nice to be asked, thankyou! although unlike dh I have some fantastic friends who have been a support since telling them.

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bronze · 06/11/2008 17:36

Very unMN but

bronze · 06/11/2008 17:38

I emailed you again btw

moaninhore · 06/11/2008 17:39

hi bronze, got your e-mail, was just about to mail you back...I've never done a on mn, don't think I've ever had one either.. thanks!

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moaninhore · 06/11/2008 17:40

x posts!

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moaninhore · 06/11/2008 17:42

meant to add that he was due to see Pam on his own on monday at Pams request but he was trying to get seen this afternoon or tomorrow, spose thats a good sign.

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NorthernLurker · 06/11/2008 18:37

Yes I think it is about a lot more than the babies. The good thing is that he is getting help with this and you want to support him. I think you will all get there eventually. How nice to have excited friends - that sounds like a good support network.

slightlycrumpled · 06/11/2008 18:40

moaninhore my goodness you have got a lot to deal with. Make sure you are looking after yourself as well as your husband and the children.

Well done on ringing his mum, you need some time for you as well.

I'm glad the sickness is easing off for you, it's much easier to deal with it all if you are not feeling physically crap!

Take care.x

MmeLindt · 06/11/2008 18:44

Good to see you posting again, I have been lurking on your other thread.

It looks like your DH has a lot to work through, give him time, keep strong. You are doing the right thing.

Thank goodness your MIL is supportive

TeenyTinyTorya · 06/11/2008 18:44

Hi, I think I must have missed a post since your original thread. I'm glad your dh is getting some help with his feelings, it does seem that he has a lot going on. Your friends do sound great, so hopefully with their support you'll get through this. Good luck and I hope things keep getting better.

TeenyTinyTorya · 06/11/2008 18:57

Just read the rest of your original thread, your counsellor sounds wonderful, I'm so glad you're keeping your babies!

Bienchen · 06/11/2008 19:23

Agree as well that this is old issues troubling your DH. He will need a lot of support, do you think his mum will be helpful. Is there anybody else he could turn to in a constructive way. Maybe the counselling will be enough?

Look after yourself as well as the family.

moaninhore · 06/11/2008 20:12

yes, my friends have been wonderful, I wish dh had the same. I think his mum will look after him, she told me she was worried about coming between us but she wont,she is an angel really (I've had a lot to live up to..!)
I hope the counselling will be enough for him, we'll see.
I've had a lovely evening with the children, it has been very relaxed compared to lately, I'm going to lollup in the bath now and then get an early night, I feel calm, no doubt dh is getting some tlc from his mum.

oh and wonderful chocolate, my favorite
x

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biscuitbarrel · 06/11/2008 20:47

I've been lurking too, but just wanted to say I that you come across as a very understanding, thoughtful, caring and sensible person, despite having a very diffucult set of circumstances to deal with at the moment. Hope you enjoy that bath and that things all come together for you very soon.

Those kids are all in good hands!

lecohen · 06/11/2008 21:08

Hi there,

Glad you are keeping things together in spite of what's going on...I wish you continued strength and a healthy pregnancy xxx

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