DH/DP's reaction to BFP: share your experiences here!

[ExistentialistCat]

Hello

I got a faint BFP two days ago and a clear one today. I'm cautiously thrilled.

What's really surprised me is DH's reaction. It's a non-reaction, really. He's never been one to talk about emotions, so perhaps I shouldn't be surprised, but I wasn't really expecting him to return to the Sunday crossword with quite such equanimity!

Now, I'm sure that he's just trying to assimilate it all and I know that he's delighted, really - probably just apprehensive. But it would have been ever so helpful to have had some warning that he might react like this, so thought I'd share the experience.

Would love to hear about other people's experiences of sharing the BFP with their partners!

Exactly the same here, rang my dh at work to tell him and expected him to return home that eve bursting with excitement and maybe flowers or chocs! but he came home and spent the whole eve talking about work then I think he mentioned it briefly in bed before turning over and snoring.

CoNgRaTuLaTiOnS !

With DD we were both horrified, she was unplanned and concieved at a bad time.. he reacted really badly, so did i.

Then TTC for ages, got a BFP along with excitment and flowers then had a mmc

This time I could see a line and he told me i was going mad ( i was a bit obsessed ) after a few days, i knew i was PG but he would believe it so i went and ot a first responce and wee'd on it first thing and waved it under his nose first thing in the morning.. all i got was the git saying "Oh Wow" and rollin over and going back to sleep...

He's still a bit odd about it all ( 19 weeks now ), I think he found the MMC harder than i thought he had.

Almost the same here, I found out before we both left for work one morning, and said to DH 'I've just done a test and its positive so your gonna be a dad, 'Dh said Cool, whats for dinner tonight"

But I knew he was pleased

Oh and big congratualations BTW

Good luck.

Congratulations!

Both times my partner has reacted really badly (they were both unplanned pregnancies). First time he thought we were too young to have a baby & this time he thought we couldn't handle another child financially. He completely changed his mind both times after a little while & now he can't wait to meet our second little girl.

Congratulations.

My DH said 'TEST IT AGAIN!' which I couldn't do as it was my last stick. But we've been trying for nearly a year and a half and we were both a bit stunned that we caught!

Congratulations
I have only seen my Dh with tears in his eyes 4 times in 14 years of being together. When his parents split up , when I had my BFP with DS, when DS was born and when DS got 'Player of the Day' award at soccer when he was 4 .
I was totally shocked when I found out I was pg with DS ... reacted badly, handled it badly, etc. DH was so thrilled and overwhelmed he cried
With DD he was a lot more reserved as I had suffered a miscarriage a few months before and he was held back a bit (for my sake really)

It was a complete shock for us, as it was unplanned & a really inconvenient time - we've had to make a lot of adjustments very quickly. I took a test whilst he was at the shop because I'd been suspicious as to what was happening for a while (but kept getting negatives), but he'd commented on my boobs growing which rang alarm bells. I was literally shaking when I got a positive result & couldn't believe it myself. He came back about 10 minutes later & asked if I was okay. I said 'Yes...' a bit uncertainly & he asked what was wrong, so I just showed him the test. All I got for quite a few minutes was an 'oh' as he sat down, but we were both in so much shock that I wasn't exactly up for talking about it either.

Although there was a bit of really difficult, painful debate as to the best course of action after that, I think we both pretty much decided that day that we were going to have this baby & just change whatever was necessary - although we both cursed the timing for a while!

But yeah, definitely no big reactions either way at first - he did withdraw into himself & eventually just carried on eating his sandwich. But now he's really excited

Congratulations - it'll all work out, I'm sure