15 weeks pregnant - my 7 yr old daughter has just kicked me in the stomach

[electra]

Should I get it checked out? She kicked me twice, hard and it hurts. I'm not sure whether it could do real damage at this stage.

By the way,she has autism and at the moment we are having problems with her behaviour.

i would get it checked electra - i'm sure it will be fine but it will lay a marker that you might need extra respite/ bumping up the chain for other support services...
(that's if you want them to be involved...)

you will only worry if you don't. i had a fall (right onto stomach) at a similar point and didn't get checked out. i always wonder whether i should have.

Tis probably all fine but wont hurt to get checked over

ds1 spent my entire pregnancy with ds3 doing hideous things - climbing on my bump in the main to try and see over things. He was a big 5.

Once he headbutted me quite hard when I was about 35 weeks and I felt quite strange afterwards - ds3 moved quite violently so did get that checked out - if it hurts I would get it checked.

Hope things are OK - no improvement on the behaviour then? DS1's has slipped again recently. Much sympathy.

Are you rhesus negative? If so then definitely. I had a fall at a similar stage in my last pregnancy and got it checked and had anti D. Saying that, they checked me but didn't check babys heartbeat or anything.

Oh cr@p, I am rh negative. I had forgotten about that, thanks!

Jimjams - I'll come back in a minute and give an update, but no - things are worse

If you are RH negative I would go for a jab if I were you.

Thanks for replies. It is complicated because our consultant thinks it isn't behavioural - he thinks it could be psychiatric and have an OCD element. He thinks that it could possibly require medication and that it needs other experts involved to get to the bottom of what is going on. But she appears to be angry and anxious about my pregnancy and appears to understand the concept of it. Her language has improved a lot - and she is doing well in all her programs, but her behaviour is very aggressive and very difficult to get under control at times. She doesn't normally go for me - poor dd2 is the prime target and has bald patches where her hair has been pulled out It means we have to keep her away from other children because she will launch quite violent attacks. How are things going with ds1 Jimjams?

BTW I am going to get it checked out.

has he fast tracked CAMHS now that you're pregnant then?

play therapy? friend's ds just has block (he's 8) and having decided it wouldn't help it was actually very interesting... seemed to raise esteem a lot which made everything else less of an issue...

It's fine when we have an aversive. Something we can use calmly, that doesn't scare him or upset him, but that he just doesn't like . Like a raincoat (just put it on him), but then he gets used to it. In his case he thinks it's funny to try and wind us up. So currently he is spitting. All the time. Especially when we're watching. He knows he's not meant to do it, so it's eye contact 'spit', but ignoring it doesn't work either, because he knows. Although he of course will have no understanding why or that it's revolting etc. But if he knows he's not meant to do it then that makes it funny.

If it's OCD like do you think it could be related to anxiety? If so would lots of social stories help do you think?

I'm quite a fan of Floortime as well now, to use for play etc.

Well I had it checked out and the doctor thinks it will be ok. He doesn't think I will need a shot but I will mention it to the midwife next time I see her anyway so she's aware of these ongoing events.

Jimjams - our consultant does think that it is an anxiety problem. He has put a program in place which is a bit CBT based - ie trying to unravel what is going through her mind when she does it, but he did also suggest social story type approaches... L is exactly like ds1 - ie knows it is wrong and finds it hilarious.

Glad it was OK. I think anti-d contains thimerosal (I'm RH-ve as well).

"L is exactly like ds1 - ie knows it is wrong and finds it hilarious."

Oh- this is so hard to deal with ime. If I find a sensory aversive, so something he doesn't like the feel of, using it every time very quietly works - he gets self control within a day. But he soon adapts- so we end up with the bonus of having completed a sensory integration programme (!!) but our sanction has gone and so there is nothing to stop the behaviour.

If you find anything that works let me know.

I will I think our children are similar in various ways.

Yes, you are right about the thimerosal - I had intended to refuse the routine shots for that reason. I think I should avoid possible triggers.