Announcing your pregnancy

[SalBySea]

I feel a bit shy about these things - was the same with my engagement. Felt a bit "show-ey off-ey" even though I know its not really.

I am telling friends as I see them / as it comes up, but have a large family and need to tell them all at the same time as they got a bit funny in the past with cousins who told people as they saw them as that always meant someone was the last to know and heard from someone else

Anyway - I kinda dont wanna do it by phone - find it a bit hard to get the words out and know what to say. Got around the engagement thing by sending "save the date" cards so didnt have to do it by phone. I wanna cop out and get my mum to do it but she's having none of it (and I guess, rightly so!). What about writing? Do you think "we're having a baby" cards are a bit tacky?

In general I much prefer other forms of communication (face-to-face, internet, letters, cards) to phone conversations. I am not a phone person. My phone is used 95% of the time for texting.

send everyone an email asking for pregnancy advice as you guys are expecting (state the month your expecting in) this way it's an email announcing your pregnancy and pretending like you want to keep the family involved/care about everyone knowing at the same time and just general pregnancy support. just remember you don't have to take any of the advice, it's just an excuse to tell everyone

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I wasnt sure about this either. But didnt want family members (aunts etc) to hear third hand. So I just bought some plain notelets and wrote to 3 key people who I wouldnt generally see or phone that often. Had responses from all except one with lovely congratualations. Will forgive my grandfather for having not responded given that he is nearly 99!

Definately not tacky at all- maybe if you got prints of the 12wk scan and sent it out as a postcard to the whole world that would be tacky but little notes arent!

My friend sent text to everyone she knew on way home from 12wk scan. Not my cup of tea but worked for her! But that doesnt work for everyone...

Good luck and congratulations!

Facebook!? Put it on your wall! Upload photo of scan for your profile??

With an apology for being a product of your generation.

I know how you feel. I didn't announce my first 'til 18 wks, and by then I'd got so used to keeeping it secret it felt really odd for it to be this big out in the open big deal with everybody saying congratulations and looking happily at me. I'm weird though.

PS, there was no facebook in 2002 though, I don't think!!

Liffey
Know what you mean about being odd telling people after so long with it being secret! Is really weird discussing outloud after months of secrecy!

I like the scan pic idea, but our scan pics arent great - the only descipherable one makes the baby look like Bart Simpson. They did do a lovely one of the two feet for us but then only printed the last 4 frozen frames so we didnt get it

I didnt tell anyone until 12wk scan then txt pic out, i didnt think this was tacky and was quick and easy way of telling ppl, have told others (family abroad) by email with scan pic... My scan pic was fab, v clear and baby waving!!!

I facebooked it this time. Everyone that mattered ( parents, grandparents etc ) knew already.

'Sarah is 13 weeks pregnant' status update with scan pics seemed to do the trick with everyone else.

I got married abroad then had the wedding do 3 months later. By that time I was 12 weeks pregnant (I know!! ) so at the end of DH's speech he said he had a photo to show everyone and put the scan pic up on the big screen! Is that show-offy enough????

im 7 weeks with my 1st and so far have only told both parents and my hubbies brother, hard keeping it in from everone but done want to tell anyone until im past those 12 weeks!!! really want to shout from roof top but cant really, think a phone call will be ok when i come to telling most the family and friends!

my friends guessed when they realised i was drinking schloer not wine at a party when i only lived round the corner so no driving excuse. was useless at lying to the accusing fingers & went bright red so was obvious.

I speak to most of my family though bebo so i put my scan photos on with an announcment and watched all the omg messages come through!! i also hate announcing things dont know why just a low key kinda girl

liffy i did a similar thing with dd2 our town has a big festival in aug so friends came to stay for the weekend and i told them as we walked through the festival i was 5months !! she could not believe it! i hardly showed at all! then i had to start telling other people like my parents before she did!!

My mum told our family via Christmas cards!!

I too am shy of things like this. I told friends via text or email and waited for most work people to notice!

Do you have their email addresses?

I'm telling close family and friends via phone and the rest will get an email once we're ready to announce to the world, in about another month or so!

I also know most of the people I've already told can't keep their mouths shut, so I won't have too many people to tell anyway!