Nervous About Pregnancy

[Zebraa]

I'm nearly 14 wks prgnant and I've started to feel a bit depressed, not majorly so but just anxious. I just feel like I want the 9 months to be up so I can hold my healthy baby.

Is this normal fears? Should I speak to midwife about it? I only gave birth to DS less than a year ago and I was really happy and enjoyed my pregnancy with him so I don't know why I'm feeling like this.

Hi there ((((hug))) - don't worry, it all sounds perfectly normal to me. I found the second pregnancy very different to the first....you have a baby to look after for one thing!! not so much time for yourslef and the novelty has worn off. Hormones changing up and down.....it's no wonder you might have a low spell. I'm a great beleiver that it's always good to talk and so you can mention this to her - although odds on she'll tell you to make sure you are eating well,sleeping as much as you can and having some 'me' time. I found at the 16-18 week stage I was blooming again and had a bit more strength but it is hard when you have two so close together. At least I found it so.
But it WILL fly by and then life will get very interesting indeed. Try to focus on your son and enjoy the time you have with him alone instead of wishing it away - this is a special time when you can indulge him without a new baby fighting for your attention.
By the way, my two are nineteen months apart and I never regretted having the close together - they are such good company for one another now!
Good luck and I hope you are feeling more cheerful soon. It's all good, you're growing a lovely baby - be proud and take it one stage at a time.

L x

Hi Zebraa,
I'm pregnant with my first and nearly 16 weeks, I feel like you do. Sometimes I get a bit excited but generally I am proceeding with a feeling of caution. Somebody said to me today 'you're healthy, your 12 week scan showed a healthy baby, so why arent you excited' etc and I don't know the answer to that!
I just wanted to let you know you're not alone in those feelings and I wish you all the best for your lovely baby no. 2 xx

Hi Zebraa and Titmouse
This is my first pregnancy, nearly 17 weeks and have just had a cry in the bathroom over being sick yet again (I thought I was over morning sickness) and how useless I feel. I've had some really buoyant days where I've felt great and done big walks up steep hills etc but the last few days I've felt totally flat and knackered again. I've been ill with all kinds of ailments and even though this baby was planned I feel like it wasn't, findng it hard to accept it today and am scared about the future.
Sorry, probably not a supportive message to write. But just wanted you to know you are not on your own!

Hi Zebraa

i am feeling exactly the same, although I have only just found out I am expecting no 2!

Last time I was whopping round the house with joy, this time I am just thinking "s*" - and we even planned this pregnancy.

I think it is just the fact that we are not niave first timers anymore & now exactly what we have coming - we have shared good & bad expereinces with other Mums at baby groups, and although slightly more relaxed about things are a lot more aware!

Plus we already have one little one - I feel realy bad that he will have to share Mummy & also that no2 wont have those early few weeks with just mum & dad that no1 had! completly irrational!!

I also remember the relief of reaching the end of the 1st 12 weeks then the next bit dragging on but the last 20 weeks flew by for me. Also you have no medical check-ups when you need them the most in those early days - I used to feel that your pregnancy isnt taken seriously until you reached a certain number of weeks!

I am sure that once we all get past the feeling like crap phase we will all do just fine! I just wanted you to know that you are not the only one to feel like that!