So scared

[ButIForgetMyself]

I have been absolutely ecstatic all the way through my pregnancy. DP and I are over the moon. I'm 27 weeks today, was very much planned. Wasn't fazed at all.

But all of a sudden tonight I'm just absolutely terrified of what's going to happen when baby arrives. DP and I have been getting along fantastically and I'm scared it's going to change too much, I'm going to be rubbish etc etc.

Please tell me this is normal and just a blip - because I am away from home at work tonight and I can't stop crying, just cried down the phone to DP and I think he thinks I am just super-hormonal (he's probably right).

Its totally normal to feel like this.

It will change a lot, but will soon feel like a new kind of normal. You will be fine.

What will happen is that your baby will arrive and you will spend the first few weeks in a blur and any free time looking at him/her!

It'll all be alright. Once the baby's here it will be like the little one was always here. Your life doesn't have to change any more than you want it to. It is normal to feel overwhelmed. My ds is 9 and I still feel this way sometimes. Pregnancy does odd things to your body and your mind. You can always talk to your midwife or a friend if you need some support. It's OK to do this. Look after yourself.

I went through this with all my pregnancies.

the enormity of going from the 'known' to the unknown really scary.

This will pass and all will be well.

Congratulations by the way!

everyone has these thoughts. It's the not knowing that gets to some people. I was just the same with my first and with my second. Nobody can say how things r going to go 4 u, but take everything as it comes and enjoy the experience

Thanks for your messages. To be honest, I can't believe it's taken till now for the enormity of it all to hit me! I've looked after other peoples' babies for the last 16 years so I kind of know what I'm up against, but still terrified that I seem to be forgetting everything I've learnt along the way.

Also the fact that I'll be starting maternity leave six weeks on Friday makes it all seem so real - and the scary third trimester is just around the corner.

And I'm miles away from DP and won't be home till Friday - that doesn't help.

I was exactly the same. It really hit me the night before dd was born, my waters had started leaking and I balled my eyes out worrying that it was going to be so different! It turns out that it has bought me and dp closer and you will love the changes that your lo will bring. I would never go back to before dd, I love the smile she gives me at 5am when she wakes for her bottle - It makes getting up in the night worth it!

Tbh I don't think it really hit me either until I was actually in labour and even then I don't think I really thought seriously about what life would be like... DH was laughing at me about this the other day

But in a way there is no point in thinking about it too much as the reality will be different from what you imagined. Just go with the flow if you can.