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increased nuchal translucency

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fabbymum · 27/09/2008 21:42

HI there, had 12 week scan on thur and was told baby has nuchal fold of 6.5mm-v.high i know. I have had 2 perfectly healthy pregnancies and I am 27 yrs old. Go for more detailed scan on tue and will be offered a CVS. This is pure hell for us and all i can do is cry, cry, cry!! anyone had such a high reading....details pls!!! thankyou in advance for sharing your personal stories xx

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Mandy73 · 07/10/2008 15:13

Fabbymum well done for getting over this hurdle. The wait is pure hell and I totally understand your feeling of numbness and not crying. I was the same, just trying to get through it one breath at a time. Some kind of survival mode really.

Its awful to think the wee one is so determined to keep going even though the outcome is apparent, I almost wish things would end, as heartbreaking as it will be when it does.

Yes it's unspeakably sad. I want to say the outcome is far from apparent but I don't know very much about the specifics here. Just thinking about you and crossing everything.

I'm angry at my stupid body for allowing it to go on.

Please don't be, although I understand completely how you feel. I was flirting with dark thoughts of just going ahead and having a termination, just wanted to see the end of it all.

Thank you - I'm far from 'safe' but just trying to enjoy the now a bit after what feels like 3,5 blank weeks.
Big hugs to you. xx

pelvicflawed · 07/10/2008 19:20

fabbymum just want to send you my good wishes and thoughts - I went through this a few months ago and I can identify with all your feelings - its just pure bloody hell - no other nice way of describing it. At times I couldn't believe it was happening to me - it was almost at times as if I was watching a movie of myself and I kept thinking these things happen to other people and not us. You will get through it so stay strong. All the best.

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fabbymum · 08/10/2008 12:25

thanks pelvic....wot was your outcome?? I'm sorry to hear you went thru this too. Roll on friday is all i can say.....

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pelvicflawed · 09/10/2008 06:43

I don't know whether its helpful to say but mine wasn't a good one and after some deep soul searching we decided not to carry on (when it comes to it its a decision that only you as a couple can make - sometimes we wonder if we made the right one - but I think we did based on our family, experiences etc etc). I'll never be 'over' it but I am 'dealing' with it if that makes sense - I try and keep postive, remember the good things about the preganacy and look to the future - dosen't work all the time but it helps. I can't recommend ARC (Anti-natal Results Choices) more highly though - when we felt lost in it all - they gave us support and made us realise that there are others who have gine through this and survived - even now though our immediate need for support had passed I know that I can contact them - or a parent who has had a similar experience - and get support - its like a big comfort blanket!!

Please don't let my story make you feel negative - you haven't got the results yet as many Mumsnetters have shown you can have intial bad test results and go on to have good outcome - so stay positive - thinking of you.

Mandy73 · 09/10/2008 18:10

fabbymum just to say I'm thinking about you for tomorrow. xx

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fabbymum · 11/10/2008 10:36

well i got results of cvs test, it revealed we had a little girl although she had turners syndrome. Completely gutted, words cannot describe how i felt when I got the call at my work. I was asked to go in that day for a chat and to advise us of our options. I asked for a scan which they say they don't norm offer but they woulds since I asked. It was then that they told us her wee heart had stopped beating....I was completely crushed, she had lost her battle. The strange thing is, just 2 hrs before the appointment, whilst forcing food down my throat, I felt tiny flutters so to be told that a couple of hours later, was devestating. When we got the news, she had Turners Syndrome I almost wished in my thoughts that the poor wee soul would give up and allow nature to take its course and this is what happened. At least we had no choices to make. Taking that tablet on thursday didn't seem so hard when I knew she had already died. Me and hubby had to go in yest to be induced, it was awful and didn't know how long things would take but after 6 hrs, she made her little appearance. We were asked if we'd like to see her and I'm glad we did....her wee legs,arms, fingers and toes were completely perfect and her little head too but seeing her swollen neck and body confirmed to us that nature taking over was for the best.Explaining to my 7yr old daughter was hard but we just told her that baby had a sore tummy. She was angry and asked if a pregnant woman from heaven had stolen our baby.
Hearing other woman giving birth yesterday was very painful to then hear baby cries but then it reminded me that maybe one day that will be us, holding a healthy baby. I couldn't wait to get home and cuddle into my kids last night, it softened the blow slightly. My 2yr old has an operation next week so got that to focus on, that'll take our minds off one thing and on to another. Thankyou to everyone for your good wishes and comments xx

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Mandy73 · 11/10/2008 13:54

fabbymum I am so very sorry for what you are going through. My heart goes out to you and your family. You are being amazingly brave and strong. What's happened is just heart breaking.

Thinking of you, hoping all goes well with your 2-year old's surgery next week. xx

pelvicflawed · 11/10/2008 14:46

Fabbymum - I'm sorry to hear your news, thinking of you and your family.

brookeslay · 11/10/2008 14:58

I am very sorry about your little girl having turners syndrome. It is so heart aching when you have such a result almost an out of body experience. I am glad that at least she is at peace. Take one day at a time and be gentle on yourselfs. It takes a long time to recover , your daughter will provide an outlet of love for you. I have lost babies to being unbalanced translocation my DP is balanced so i know the pain.

kd73 · 11/10/2008 19:34

Fabbymum, I am so sad and sorry for you. Any baby loss is devastating, so be kind to you and those around you

clarabella78 · 13/10/2008 13:39

Dear Fabbymum, I'm so so sorry for the loss of your little girl. The same thing happened to us in Feb this year when our daughter was diagnosed with Turners. Thinking of you loads xx

CS7 · 13/10/2008 13:52

Hi Fabbymum,
I'm so sorry to hear you lost your little girl. I lost a baby too earlier this year at 18 weeks- medical termination due to kidneys not developing. His name is Daniel. He'll look after your little girl in baby heaven.
Be strong xx

GeMa08 · 02/07/2021 21:24

I had my NT scan couple days ago and it was 5.8mm. The midwife told me that there is only 30% that my baby will be healthy and 70% with chromosomal abnormalities. The took bloods for the combined test and result came in as high risk st 1:13. I felt so defeated. It is my first pregnancy, our first baby. We’ve been praying for this little blessing for a long time. All i wanted is for my baby to be healthy, but this happened. I am due to see a consultant next week,might proceed with the CVS on the same day. Has anybody had the same dillema as mine? Please share your journey. I am still hanging on to that ray of hope for my baby.

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