Anyone else finding the first trimester an endurance test?

[cupcakeandtea]

I know I shouldn't complain and I feel guilty everytime I moan, but I'm finding the first trimester extremely hard going. I'm constantly nauseous and knackered and it's really starting to affect me. I burst into tears last night because I just want to feel normal again.

I was so happy when I found out I was pregnant and now I'm wondering if I'm properly depressed.

I had a scare at only 5 weeks and was so relieved the baby was ok but now all I can concentrate on is not throwing up and getting through the day. Commuting into London has now become an endurance test!

Everyone keeps telling me the first trimester is the worst and i will start to feel better soon but it seems so far off. Thankfully I'm 9 weeks now and week 7 was definitely the worst yet. I'm wondering whether getting my doctor to sign me off for a few days is a wise move in the current economic climate!

I'm almost 5 weeks, terribly tired, but no nausea (don't hate me) but have been careful about what I eat - mostly salad, vegetables, fish, meat, fruits.

So HOW and WHY have I put on 2.5 pounds in 4 days?!?

Hi Cupcake,

It went went ok at the Drs. She tested my urine which showed I had ketones, dehydrated and some protein - which could mean an UTI which is why I might be feeling sicker.

Seems I do have HG rather than normal morning sickness. She has put me on some anti-sickness tablets and actually felt much better today and haven't vomited, which is amazing after 4 times yesterday!

My friend who is a midwife popped to see me and said that if she had been my GP she would have admitted me for an IV because of the weight I've lost and not eating/dehydration etc... Bit scary. Hope it doesn't need to come to that and I can build up some strength now.

Good luck everyone and roll on the 2nd trimester!

mamakim

I think you should do it !! My DS goes to a childminder 4 days a week while I am at work and I am trying to save as much money as I can now as when the baby is born, I want him to keep his routine which in return will also mean I may get some time to rest and also bond with baby.

I think in this first trimester you have to look after you and that little life inside you.

Hi all fellow sufferer here.
Am 12 weeks and just waiting for the sickness to magically disappear! Also exhausted but at least my dd still naps after lunch, so I can sleep too! Not sure how you ladies that work are surviving.
Have scan on fri but am petrified due to miscarriage last time, so have combination of morning sickness and nervous sick feeling all the time! Am expecting miracles at 13 weeks but should maybe curb my expectations!
Also been in tears and just want to feel normal again.
Mamakin - I agree with Loveactually - do the nursery thing if you can.

No wonder you felt ill CosmoGirl - it will get better. I have to say I did force myself to drink water during 1st trimester and it did help. Dehydration is a big issue with feeling sick.
I actually craved fizzy water especially when feeling queasy, found making myself burp made me feel loads better, if that's any use to anyone here?

How is everyone doing?

I'm well into my second trimester and still feeling rubbish.
Bacterial gut infection, Oral Thrush and exhaustion....

I'm 11 weeks and have been vomiting regularly since about 6 weeks.... My first pregnancy I was sick throughout. I swore I wouldn't do it again.

Curently I'm also ill with a chest infection and a nasty ear infection and 2 cold sores!!! - I was super healthy before - I have a brilliant diet and was a regular runner.

I'm now reduced to a knackered vomiting mess that tries unsuccessfully to keep quaver crisps down as just the thought of anything else makes me retch...

My dd is gorgeous but is 21 months at the moment and at that 100 miles an hour stage.

I always thought I'd enjoy being pregnant.. I can honestly say that I would much prefer to go through labour 5 times that endure this pregnancy lark... (quite enjoyed labour really!)

hey ladies
anyone feeling better yet?

I was. Had great two days this week (week 16) and then yesterday afternoon felt dreadful again and feel crap today Getting severely fed up of it now....I just hate the get better, get worse, get better.....there's just no logic to it.

Sorry to moan - feeling sorry for myself and to top it off I have a swollen gum this morning which I'm hoping isn't going to turn into an abcess.

Hi Cosmogirl

I know exactly what you mean. I'm 18+5 now and have had 5 days or so where I felt fine and then 3 days of exhaustion capped off yesterday by going off food and then having a big vomit in the evening once I did get some food down me. I had a cry on DH's shoulder about fearing it will get as bad as it was in week 10 when I went to hospital. I'm not sleeping well as I wake up constantly worried I'll be sick again. The ups and downs are so miserable.

I'm taking the day off work today to rest and trying to get to see my acupuncturist.

At least you are getting some good days, we have to assume that soon there will only be good days...
take care, big hugs
why is this so hard? I still don't feel connected to my baby

Hi LittleMissKiwi,

Thanks for your post. I think we could be the same person! Had a bit of a melt down yesterday evening in front of DH. Just crying and saying that I felt I was letting him down because I was so bad at being pregnant, why do others find it so easy? etc etc...Then said I don't feel connected to the baby at all and I just want my life back - I am sick of feeling ill all the time.

He tried his best to calm me down but I was pretty hysterical and actually to be honest, was enjoying the release of finally being able to cry.

I hope we do start to enjoy pregnancy soon. I just feel so cheated that I'm not blooming and enjoying things, I really wanted this baby - it was very much planned, but I just feel like a crap mother already. And it is all down to the sickness and nausea, without that I would be fine.

I'm so happy to read this thread, thank you for saying how you really feel. I am so fed up of feeling sick and tired. I feel like bursting into tears most days (it passes quickly each time so it's clearly just mood swings rather than anything serious) and I'm p*ssed off that I can't enjoy things e.g. avoiding drinks at work cause I can't drink any wine and will have to lie about why, so life feels really really dull. When I've told a few people that I'm PG, they have usually said something along the lines of 'you must be so thrilled' and I feel really guilty that I don't feel thrilled at the moment.

I'm sure we will all get better than this and I think it will be much easier when I can tell people at work and get excited about it with friends etc. So let's hang in there, but I'm so happy to find other people who are also finding it a trial

1stMrsF said "really really dull".

OMG, yes. I am habituated now to going to bed so early, not doing anything I can possibly avoid doing, that all is left of my life is work. I have nothing interesting to say because i haven't done anything or been anywhere or made anything or seen anyone or seen anything.
Still at least I am less stressy and tearful now.

Hey all

I seem to have come out of my most recent down-sick-patch and feel OK again, ravenously hungry in fact this evening (still can't eat more than a small portion though).How strange that it still comes in cycles of good and bad.

I'm hoping that the good stretches get longer and the bad times get milder and shorter each time...

Cosmogirl, I saw on another thread you'd set up a new email address for deep consolation sessions. Can you put it on here again. I think we should talk...
Cheers
Alice

Hi Alice,

Sure that would be great. Glad to hear you are having a better patch - me too. It was my birthday yesterday and managed proper food and everything (I threw up before bed but nevermind )

Here's the address: [email protected]