very scared of going for amnio

[eggybrokenoff]

I have an amnio tomorrow morning after a high risk blood test result. I'm 18 weeks and I'm most frightened about the risk the test poses to the baby. I just can't stop thinking about it. Any advice would be very welcome

Oh eidsvold I said I'd bow out but I have to say what a gorgeous pic! I hadn't seen a pic of your DD before.

And while I'm here, from another POV, the wait between the possible amnio stage and the birth was better for me "not knowing". I mentally prepared myself as far as possible, and read up in case he did have down's, but it helped me be ready to welcome my baby whatever happened.

But while there is still a chance (say 1 in 5 or even a tiny chance) of all being OK or some survival, then that is different to being told that your baby has a condition and it will die. Also finding out a diagnosis before birth throws up new situations. I have a friend whose son has downs and that influenced me not having an amnio in the pregnancy before this one even when I was high risk, but being 1 in a number was not like being told my baby was incompatible with life. There are some very awful conditions and I would not judge someone for ending a pregnancy rather than watch their baby die and possibly put themselves at risk when there is no hope.

My son was starved of oxygen at birth and I knew I loved him no matter what, we were told good chance of severe CP turns out he has only visual and other impairments but he was already here when that happened and he did have a chance of survival. I also know someone who has a severely disabled child due to a genetic disorder. Sadly, her next pregnancy also was affected, she terminated as she felt she had to put the son she had first and she could nt cope with seeing someone else go through that. Having a termination doesn't mean you don't love your child. Rightly or wrongly most people think they are doing the 'right' thing at the time.