Afternoon all. Could do with some MN wisdom please.
I went to the first of the NCT classes last night alone because DH didn't want to come. In fairness, he's said each time I've asked him that he won't come with me but he does want to be at the birth. Last night as I sat there as the only one not with their partner, I did wonder what on earth I was doing. The hormonal mad woman in me took over on the way home and I cried myself to sleep reflecting on the fact that everyone else at the class appeared to have wonderfully supportive partners who gave a sh*t and mine who doesn't even know how many weeks there are in a pregnancy let alone what he should do to support me in labour and beyond (I brought up the subject of post natal depression the other day and he seriously thought it was some kind of joke!).
I'm still very upset about it this morning and would appreciate some MN wisdom as to how, if he won't come to classes with me, I can get him to be more useful than a chocolate fireguard whilst I'm in labour and beyond or whether it would be better not to have him there at all.
Incidentally, I know many women cope alone during this time so appreciate that it wouldn't be the end of the world were he not to be there. Unfortunately, mum/family/friends all live more than 3 hours away so don't really have a fallback position and doula is out from a financial point of view.