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Did Any Of You Choose Not To Find Out The Sex?

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chinchi · 04/08/2008 13:34

I have my 20 week scan tomorrow here in Turkey and Im so excited!

I was scanned 3 weeks ago due to severe cramping and the baby refused to let us know the sex Ever since I have kind of enjoyed the guessing game and think I have made the decision not to find out the sex tomorrow (providing he/she wishes to show us this time)!

Did any of you not want to find out the sex, but later go on to regret it? Im quite confident at the moment that I wont give in, but time will tell come tomorrow!

I have an 11 month old DS so will be quite prepared if its another boy, but not so much if Im in the pink corner!

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PinkTulips · 04/08/2008 20:33

i didn't with either of mine.

i just love the moment you find out after delivery, it takes you mind off the pain and exhaustion a bit.

i did have a strong feeling with both and was right.

am preg with dc3 now and considering finding out simply to make it easier on ds to get used to the idea of the baby, but i really don't want to know tbh as i love that moment after birth!

Evelynsmum · 04/08/2008 20:38

Even if you want to know they may not be able to tell you.

I was happy for us to know and DH wanted to but both our babies had other ideas...

DiscoDizzy · 04/08/2008 20:43

Didn't want to know for either of ours, we wanted, expected and got 2 girls.

cafebistro · 04/08/2008 20:47

We didnt find out with either of ours but i knew instinctively both times what we were having, strange i know! I was very lucky to have one of each.

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no1putsbabyinthecorner · 04/08/2008 20:55

We didnt find out with dd, am 36 weeks and havnt found out with this one too. No regrets. (although dh would have liked to know this time)
Think its an amazing suprise after all the hard work, and it was lovely for dh to look and tell me.

JRocks · 04/08/2008 20:59

I didn't want to find out, and was so glad we didn't. Although there was a comedy moment in delivery after the consultant had announced the birth of my daughter, the midwife and paediatrician had to correct him, it was in fact a boy.

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JRocks · 04/08/2008 21:11

quite possibly. He also wanted me to name DS Ahmed after him

expatinscotland · 04/08/2008 21:13

Couldn't wait to find out what this one was!

Were forced into having a 'surprise' the first two times because no 20-week scan on the NHS in our trust, so this time it's wonderful knowing!

lingle · 04/08/2008 21:17

As my secretary pointed out before my scan, "I think you'll find there are quite enough surprises in childbirth without adding any more".

But don't find out if you feel it takes something from your experience.

Twinklemegan · 04/08/2008 21:19

Yes, by accident. After mulling it over for ages and ages, we finally decided to ask the sex. We both sat through the scan, expecting to be asked if we wanted to know. End of scan, we realised we were none the wiser by which time it was too late. Frustratingly when we asked the sonographer if she could have told us, she just said Yes and refused to say another word.

But no matter. It was the most amazingingly lovely surprise finding out he was a boy. I had secretly longed for a boy. And since I was too superstitious to buy anything it made no difference at all.

I think if I was having my second I would definitely want to know, if only for practical reasons.

GirlWithTheMouseyHair · 05/08/2008 11:19

I really wanted the surprise but DH was undecided - I decided that it should be his decision cos I get all the kicks etc and he doesn't get the same experience. We asked the sonographer to write down the sex and I hid it...DH lasted two weeks before wanting to find out. I didn't for another month and in that month it really helped DH bond with our baby - he revealed the sex by complete accident and was gutted - I thought I'd be gutted too but am delighted and it's definately helped us both envisage our baby rather than a bump.

We haven't decided on final name though, will choose that when we meet our baby, and not told anyone that we know so it's still our little secret, also am aware they sometimes get it wrong!

I thought I'd be disappointed to know before the birth but it has been a great bonding experience, especially for DH

zoejeanne · 05/08/2008 14:19

I had my second scan last week and neither of us wanted to know - I love surprises and always ask to be surprised at christmas and birthdays, so this will be the best of them all (and it's due xmas eve, so will be a proper xmas surprise).

I don't like saying 'it' though, I find it really impersonal, like I'm talking about a cup or a hairbrush, so refer to the baby as he/him - which is confusing lots of people!

Agree with the naming before birth, I just find that odd - what if it just doesn't look like whatever you've called it?

Good luck with the scan chinchi

pippylongstockings · 05/08/2008 14:49

Don't find out....... It truely is one of the last few really great suprises in life. Yes, it is exciting to find out before and I can see why when it's offered the temptation is to find out but its great having the build up and anticipation plus it makes labour all worth while,the moment where dh tells you what your new addition to the family is....
Such a great prize for the months of waiting. So pleased i didn't find out with either of mine.

Be strong.

DartmoorMama · 05/08/2008 14:57

Didn't find out first time round with DD but did with DS So have done it both ways. Actually rather liked knowing the second time, we felt that much more connected. Either way you still get a little surprise, it just at a different time.

My closest friends knew the name that we were probably going to call our ds but there was always 'we might change out mind' clause in there.

MamaGLovesMe · 05/08/2008 14:57

We didn't find out with one and two but did with three.

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