Isn't it annoying how RUDE people are when you tell em you are expecting third (and subsequent!) babies?

[MamaG]

Instead of the "how lovelies" and the "congratulations" comments, you get

Was it planned?

Ooh you must be mad

Oh you're going to have your hands full (like I sit on my arse all day and watch Jeremy Kyle now, with two children)

me and mate (also pg with dc3) were discussing it today and have BOTH experienced it

I have been wondering about this lately, as I only have DS, and hope to have more at some point.. I'm still getting the 'so when are you having your next?' comments, but know as soon as I do that the 'you're not having anymore now are you?' ones will start rolling in. Since when was two children the perfect amount? But then I've also encountered a lot of, 'oh you must be so pleased you had a boy'. Well, yes, but would have been equally thrilled with a girl. People are indeed weird. We Must Conform.

I am so peed off with this Currently 30w with dc 4.

Yesterday someone I hadn't seen for ages stopped me and looked at my bump and said "Oh another one, is that congratulations or oh dear?!"

WTF!!?!!

Even most of my family have been less than happy. It has NOTHING to do with them (even if dd will only be 14m when ds arrives! ) so I wish they'd all keep their sarky comments to themselves

Sorry rant over!

We've had a couple of 'are you hoping for a boy this time' comments, but apart from that we haven't had any negetive comments.

I got the "are you hoping for a boy" and "I bet dh wants a boy" when pg with no. 3 after two girls. I also got "was it planned" , from someone who was determined to find something cutting to say.

When dc3 turned out to be ds1 I then got all the "ah, you got your boy then" and "dh must be pleased", but although faintly irritating I know they meant well (older generation). The only comment that hurt me was the was it planned one, and that was only because she meant to be rude. As far as the others were concerned they were being nice, and that's the way I took it.

Weirdly I had no comments when I got pg with no. 4 (maybe because when I'd had ds1 and been asked if I was having any more I said "yes!" )

Sounds like I was lucky to mostly get 'congratulations'!

I'm also amazed at this. I'm expecting dc3 in December.

I have 2 dd's and am expecting ds1.

Can't believe the "bet it is a relief that is a boy comments".

Actually, just want a healthy and happy baby - wanted a third child and didn't give a monkeys re the sex - and neither did dp and he is an only child!

At the outset, I kinda wanted another dd - as mine are lovely - and wouldn't spend a penny as have everything I would need. As it happens having ds1 is also lovely - now getting the "ooh, boys are so different comments with knowing looks!

What can't people be happy - my dc will be paying taxes to fund everyones pensions!

This partly why we decided not to find out the sex of this baby. We didn't want any sympathetic looks if we knew we were expecting a third girl.

I'm also 37 weeks pregnant with DC3 and having 2 DD's already am getting seriously peeved with all the 'hoping for a boy' comments !
Have had the same response with this being our third and having 3 under 5, people keep telling us we are mad, we wont know whats hit us, how will we cope etc

ARRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGg

Yep, expecting 4th boy and lots of boring comments from boring people.

And why do people assume that a woman will want girls and a man will want sons? "What a shame you'll never experience having a daughter, but I expect your dh is pleased." etc etc. How dull to feel you can only relate to your own sex!

I think pgwithnumber3 hit the nail on the head. Most people's comments are because they are thinking they would never be able to manage it themselves. Other mums to 3 or more boys have been nothing but positive about my ds3.

Still doesn"t give anyone the right to comment though, if they are thinking 'how on earth will she cope?' they should keep it to themselves. And whoever said that to Wombfor1more should be ashamed.

I've had this too!

We found out a few weeks ago that our number 2 pregnancy is twins...so 1 to 3 in 1 go!

Yes we were a little bit shocked obviously, but its the risk you take when you get pregnant!

Most of the comments are

"I feel sorry for you..."
"How are you going to cope?"
"well you will have to give work now won't you?"

WTF??????? Do you know my financial position soo well that you can decide that I can't afford childcare?

How am I going to cope? The same bloody way every other mother copes when they have a baby.

I feel sorry for you????? Piss off and leave me alone...

I will cope, I was born to cope. Nothing has fazed me so far and nothing bloody will.

Can you tell that I am ranting now?

really pees me off

MamaG, I am also pregnant with my 3rd, 26 weeks tomorrow, due 29th October. I already have 2 ds's and had to put up with all "I bet you want a girl" or "I hope it's a girl" comments from just about everybody, as well as the other more obvious obnoxious comments of wanting to know if it was planned or if we had a telly. When we found out that we were expecting our 3rd son, we were thrilled, but not 1 person we know in RL said congratulations, they were all pitying us, which as you can imagine, annoyed us no end. After having ds2 born with heart defects and almost losing him, we were just relieved and really pleased to find out we are having a healthy baby and really couldn't care less what gender it was. I am so excited at the prospect of meeting my 3rd son, I really wish it was October already, I just want to hold him and breath in his delicious baby smell

Oh, and congrats on your pregnancy by the way!! I think it is bloody marvellous!

MamaG, it is a whole different story when No 3 arrives though - having three definitely earns you respect!

Congratulations!

Congratulations Poorbuthappy, I'm sure you'll cope fine

Poorbuthappy, when I hear of someone having twins it always makes me feel that me having just another one will be a doddle! Respect to you!

I think the first few months will be hard for all of us with number 3/4, especially with a small gap (mine will be 17 months) BUT I am so glad now I am having another (I was devastated at first) as DD1 was an only child for 5 years and DD2 is like having another only child as DD1 is in school/activities the majority of DD2's waking hours so now, DD2 will have a playmate! She also is very loving towards other people (DD1 isn't) so I am hoping she will just love her new baby brother or sister.

I am 12 weeks today - hooray! Starting to look pregnant already. Look like I have eaten a HUGE pub lunch.

I'm expecting my first, but have read this with interest - the first person I told (apart from DH and the doc) was my yoga teacher, who responded with 'is that good or bad news?' which scared me about telling anyone else for a while. And since then I've had a lot of 'congratulations, was it planned?' - would people ask any other questions about your sex life? Tut. Why the need to be so blunt when these are people who are normally so polite. I'm gutted to see it's not going to change with future children either!

Best wishes to you all

Z.x

I'm expecting my first and have been asked the rude question 'was it planned' numerous times! Also been told over and over about how our lives will be turned upside down etc as if we need warning?! Why do people have to be so rude when you're pregnant? Like evryone has a right to know your buisiness!

Slightly diff but also get questions like 'are you allowed to eat that?' when I eat anything with egg or fish in! Like I don't know the do's and don'ts!

just had my 5th

Been asked whether I've got a television!

Also whether I'm catholic.

It's very annoying.

To be honest, my parents have been the worst. They have practically gone into meltdown now that we are unexpectedly pregnant with our third child. (DD1 - 7, DD2 10 months) My Dad is worried because I have really bad pregnancies and labours - and I have tried to convince him (and myself) that this one will be better - in fact it already is better - My mum on the other hand is "soooo worried, how will you cope financially...' Oh just f*ck off will you?? That is not helping - and I find it really offensive as it implies that we won't cope. We have dealt with so many things in the last 11 years and we are both (me and DH) very busy and pro-active people, that it just annoys me that they've gotten so worried about it all that they won't even pick up the phone. It's like I told them I had a terrible illness, not that their 3rd grandchild from us is on the way. And they had three kids and they had no money for a while and had to live off the land etc. Makes me mad.

I am 20 weeks today with #3 and still it is not public knowledge that I am even pregnant, but the comments that I have had are "oh I bet you want a girl" (I already have 2 lovely boys) "was it planned" "so when are you having #4 then?" We have found out that we are having another boy and are more than happy would have been happy either way of course, but am not telling anyone the sex because I don't want all the pitying comments from people. Also we are planning on having 4 children and when I was pregnant the first time I was already talking about number 2,3 etc lol.