Why is the first trimester so horrible?

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I am 7 weeks pregnant and not enjoying it. I have constant nausea, occasionally vomitting and have little or no energy.

I know there are people who have it worse than me but I hate the feeling of being out of control of what is happening to me, and I don't like not feeling I am able to be a good enough mummy to DS (14 months).

Work is also tiring at the moment (I work part time) although DS seems to be more tiring. Last week I had to do two 100 mile round trips involving leaving the house at 6:30 so I could be at the clients for 8:15, so I could leave at 4 to be able to pick DS up by 6. On Friday I went to bed when I got home and basically slept until Saturday morning but I was still worn out.

I know I will feel better in a few weeks' time but I have to get through the weeks first .

Sorry about long moan.

This is my third time (discouting m/c) and have felt sicker this time than ever before and more tired and just generally a lot worse. Maybe its the time of year or maybe its just coz I have a toddler and a baby at home who tire me out and have a full-on city job......

Sally and Pooka,

I couldn't agree more with you..... it's just the emotional stress that kills the whole joy of being pregnant. I found out I was pg 2 weeks ago and i was surprised and happy to say the least but then after the day had passed and the euphoria gone I was left with the question, what next???
The 9 month scenario for humans ought to be re-thought. It's too slow! and the constant worry wether everything is developing well is just a killer.
The nausea is not that bad at the moment, so I worry that it should be worse. I wear the most uncomfortable bra just to constantly remind me that the boobs have gone sesitive.... and believe it or not I am even happy for being constipated (sorry to share it with you). .... I think temporary madness should also be included on the list of early pregnancy signs.

Oh, i hope all goes well!

Good luck and congrats to you, Greenbug.
Hurry up the next trimester. I'm so impatient!

Its funny isn't it because at the end of pregnancy no-one can be helpful enough, letting you sit down, telling you to leave work early, etc. I felt quite good by that stage! It was the first 12 weeks that I really needed the lie-ins, being told to go home early, the extra care and sympathy. Its almost like you should be able to take some of your maternity leave in the first few weeks....

It's true - I really need some TLC now! As it is I am bursting into tears, wanting to kill dd and dh, up and down and all over the place. GAH! Went to supermarket today and just as everything had gone through the till I realised I had left my purse at home. I wanted to say "I'm terribly sorry, I'm pregnant."

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VERY awful, Oops!

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Hi guys. I am 12 and a half weeks, just had my can last week all well - it waved its arms! - that was really cool. But I really understand what everyone is saying about feeling down and knackered....been really tearful lately about the smallest things, I'm glad others feel the same because was aorrying I was "the only one". We are happy to be having the baby but I do get moments of "ohmygod!!!!!!" DH being most tolerant altho' I feel guilty for not being the fun person I think I was (usually!) before all this. Will it pass? I was so wanting to be pregnant and radiant and glowing! I just feel ropey and moody (and podgy!) and occasionally queasy (mostly worn off thank goodness - Carrs Water Biscuits - yum!). I teach 3-4 yr olds full time so v knackered (everyone v. supportive at work tho') thank the Lord for half term! Although I could right now start my maternity leave if only! Also is anyone getting weird bouts of forgetfulness? It's quite strange! Sorry to moan, thanks all for making me feel less alone...oh oh, emotional moment coming on again! xxx

I found out last week I'm pregnant (first time) and feel like my life has become a roller coaster of emotions. I've been broody for I don't know how long and love babies. I was delighted when I did the test and told my boyfriend, we're both really happy. But a week on my boobs are heavy, I feel huge even though my body shape hasn't even changed shape yet and I'm crying for no reason. Is this how it should be, I'm worrying that I don't want to be pregnant, it will ruin our life and the next minute I'm laughing like I've never laughed and am ready to jump up and down with joy. Dating scan tomorrow to find out how many weeks I am. We're both excited about this. My emotions aren't making sense, please tell me I'm not the only one! Crying as if my life is over is what is worrying me the most. Please tell me I'm not alone.

Advice for the sickness:

anti sickness suggestions - they work for any level of sickness, doesn't have to be severe

dans, it is all hormones, I was crying over the Vicar of Dibley the other day. If you want to cry, then cry. if you want to eat nothing but pureed olives on toast, do that too.

early pregnancy is miserable, but no reflection on how you will feel in 2 montyhs time, or how you will cope as a mother, or the personality of your child.

just drag yourself through it, it should lift no end by 15 weeks pg!

I am about 8 or 9 weeks pg, and most of mine has lifted now. It just does one day.

Poor you, I agree with everything Colditz says - you will get through it! Good luck.

Colditz,thank you so much for reassuring me I'm not losing the plot and not alone in all this, made me feel tonnes better to know this is normal and the bit about pureed olives on toast made me laugh out loud Ate two spring rolls on the way home from work and now feel quite revolting!! Cannot wait for the tears to stop, makes the tiredness seem bearable in comparison! Big thanks again, so nice to be able to talk to expectant mums-to-be going through the same