Lots of people with unplanned babies on the way!

[itati]

Did you have sex and assume you wouldn't get pregnant, did contraception fail, or were you just not thinking?

Congrats to all

Meant to say I kept really quiet about it - a couple of friends had been trying forever and I felt such a fraud. Anyway, one of these friends gave birth exactly 24 hours after I did 9 weeks ago . The other is heading down the IVF route so fingers crossed.

Famous last words: "Now my baby is two years old, I don't feel broody anymore..." (Didn't need to feel broody, the deed was already done!

Was a surprise for us, but only because although we wanted it to happen and had decided to let nature take its course, we had no clue when it would.

Took 18months for the jab to wear off (word of advice for anyone thinking of having it - it was fantastic for me as no periods, not pmt etcetc, but getting back to normal was a real pain - warned could take 3 years).

So when asked (which is very rude really when you think about it!!) I say a bit of both.

I was similar to Warmfuzzy. Rarely have any period, PCO's, tried clomid with a diff partner years ago all to no avail. Gyno referred me for a hysteroscopy in Nov last yr (i think thats what it was) just to have a poke about & make sure no obvious probs. Told me I was v unlikely to conceive naturally, I was going to need "intervention". I was pg less than 3 wks later!! Was shocked (as was fairly new DP) but both chuffed to bits. Due in less than 2 months and cant wait! Congrats to all.

At 19 i was told very flippantly that it would be unlikely i would conceive naturally. I still took the pill and had done for many years to control peroids and (attempt) to minimise pain. I was living abroad for some time and ran out of my pill so thought i would be ok for a while (only one month). On my return to the uk i found out i was pregnant. It was an overwhelming emotional time. I was too young, not in a steady relationship but PREGNANT!
Any way dd1 came along but the realtionship didnt last. When i got to gether with my dp we started trying and we had ds1. We then used beastfeeding as contraception(does that ever work ) and i got pregnant again within 5 months. Arrival of ds2 signalled very cautious contraception usage until earlier this year when i forgot to take my pill and hey presto dc4 is due 20th dec!!
so out of 4 3 were unplanned but all very much wanted. However we are going to take extreme measures after this one either i am going to convince dp to have the snip or i will look at having a coil fitted!!

I wasn't meaning to be rude, HappyNewMum2Be.

itati,
Dh and don't really want more children but 2.5 weeks ago we enjoyed ourselves.
we knew what we were doing, we enjoyed the moment.
I am now pregnant.
We will bring the child into a loving home with 2 other DC's and adore him or her.
but yes - unplanned.

Congratulations!

Your post reads a bit defensive towards what I was asking and I hope it wasn't. It was meant to be a bit of fun.

Sorry - Itati I wasn't having a dig at you. I should have added that from people like the women at the local corner shop, friends mums my nan, aunties etc.

On mumsnet it is different, it is the sort of "survey" question that helps bring out peoples life stories and helps us all to generally realise that we are normal and that somewhere out there, someone is having just as wierd and wonderful experiences as you are!!

Although, sometimes, I am sure you will agree the way that these questions are phrased can sometimes bring out negative responses rather than the types of discussion than was intended.

Some fabulous stories on this thread.

i wish I hadn't posted now. I wasn't looking to upset anyone. I was just interested.

Exactly what I mean .

Where would we all be if we didn't somewhere have a streak of interested, nosieness (call it what you want) just like Blanche and Norris (corrie!!) No body would share or learn anything.

Life would be boring!

what's your interest in this Itai, are you doing essay/research?

No.

I suppose I was curious as I have never taken a risk with getting pregnant and maybe I wish I had been more passionate than sensible!

yep....big surprise for me! had only been married 3 weeks when i found out!!!! however the wierd thing is for 3 years previously had used ''natural methods'' worked fine....as soon as wedding happened im pregnant!!! think some things just happen when you feel relaxed and comfortable etc OVER THE MOON NOW cant wait....31 weeks!!

congratulations!!

all of my pregnacies have been in some way unplanned or unexpected. I was told I would not concieve then went and had an ectopic, conceived DD after appointment with consultant to start IVF. Thought it was a fluke conceived ds 5 years after dd and am now pg with no3 another surprise, we will now have to consider contraception which seems very weird.

All my children were unplanned, sort of.
We talked about having our first and just said if it happened it happened. We weren't using contraception.

DS1, Again talked about. Dh wanted to wait a bit longer but I wanted another baby there and then but not using contraception so that was that really.

DS2 was most definately not planned. I fell pregnant with him when ds1 was 5 months old. Contraception failed.
Wouldnt change him for the world though. He is fabulous.

I understand how purleese feels though. Although I havent gone through it myself.
My BIL and his wife are having fertility treatment. They had their first insemination 2 weeks ago and SIL got a BFN today
She is completely gutted.

I was the 1% who the pill didn't work for

Itati this is a great thread to see that others have done something similar... I often felt a bit badly at first that we had gotten pg and not planned it. I'm certainly sorry if my story in particular upset anyone... not my intention at all. We are SO HAPPY and excited for our baby now, so it's not like we don't appreciate this wonderful gift.
It was just a bit of a shock at first. We did plan to eventually have a baby.. just got moved up a few years BEST wishes and baby dust to all of those who are TTC.

Ewe do you mind me asking what make of pill you were using? As I was also failed by the pill when I had my little boy, was a huge shock as I'd been taking my pill at 7am every single day for 4 years. Then one day I realised my period was late so went to the Dr as it usually runs like clockwork. I told her there was absolutely no chance in hell I was pregnant and she said "Yes, you are".

Good times lol. Although it took a while at the time for the shock to ease off!

Yasmin for me, it's relatively new (last few yrs) and my doc had never met anyone who it had failed for!

That's the what my Dr has just prescribed me!!! My current one isn't agreeing with me. Do you advise against Yasmin?

I was on it for over a year with no problems and it's great from a side effects perspective so wouldn't advise against it, it has the same 99% efficiency rate as everything else. Which I always think sounds like a great percentage but actually isn't!

I have back ache, headache, irritated 100% of the time, bloating, moodswings etc with mine and my dr said yasmin is brilliant for avoiding all these. 99% isn't great is it. What are you using now? I love my ds but i'm in no rush for baby no. 2 yet! ha

Well, I always said I would never have children. Used contraception, but I guess something failed. I was really upset (DP took it completely in his stride) had three weeks to get used to the idea of a baby on the way, and told my (rather scary evangelical christian) parents and then MC'd. After that, we weren't trying, but I guess we weren't trying Not to either So not exactly planned, but conceived two months after MC. Now 34 weeks