Calling all mnetters who are 38wks preg! I need your advice

[Dragonhart]

Would you agree to going to a wedding that is about 1 3/4 hours away from your home when this preg?

I have to confirm this week and cant decide if it is just too late to go to a weedding that you have to travel to and stay in a hotel. I seem to have amneasa when it comes to how you feel at the end (you would think I would know what I was doing third time round! ). I am struggling a bit with my back and hips atm and I am 32wks.

It is a close friend and really really want to go but dont know if it is wishful thinking.

So, how are all you 38wk preg women feeling out there?

oh hard one I'm 38+5 today and in no state to be going to a wedding but I have SPD and am totally knackered

Depends who it was and how I was feeling TBH.

Maybe going out might be nice right enough, I would check out local hospitals and take my maternity notes.

Sorry that doesn't help you much does it?

I'd probably have been ok going but defo take your notes with you and check for local hospitals.

I'm exactly 38 weeks today and if there was a wedding today I wouldn't be comfortable as it's so hot. Also am having days where I feel extremely 'heavy' in all kinds of ways. It all depends on how your individual pregnancy is going of course, but I just know i wouldn't fancy going. My cousin's getting married on the 12th, I'm due on the 15th and she can't understand why I'm not going!!!

Hi, I'm 38wks today and there's no way I'd fancy a wedding. But I have felt pretty shite throughout, so there may well be plenty of people who could breeze through it.

I'd suggest having an escape route planned, and tell people so they aren't offended if you have to go home half way through.

I was due at the end of July 2006 (heatwave) and so spent the last few weeks of my pregancy hibernating in my house with the fan on and a wet towel on my head.

I felt fine once I got somewhere, but travelling (esp sitting in a car) was really uncomfortable. I'd been really active up to that point.

Would it be possible for you to go to the ceremony/speeches but not to the evening do? I would have been ok to go - an couple of hours drive is not far where I live unfortunately - but I definately wouldn't have lasted the whole day. Plus parties aren't really designed for 38wks pregnant people, far too much alcohol and dancing required . If it were me I would go for a short time and come home to my own bed.

Thanks everyone. Suppose I know I shouldnt really go but I would be really sad to miss it. Also the kids are not coming so would be a bit of time for me and DH on our own beofre the baby comes.

Think I will try your suggestion Leni. It is not a long drive for us normally as we have family as far and wide as Inverness to Bognor it is jus the idea of having to have the baby miles away from home!

I agree with cupcake - take the chance to enjoy a last weekend with dp!
You'll be huge, and probably a bit uncomfortable, but people will understand you can't strut your funky stuff on the dancefloor and will need to sit down lots!

I was just having this debate with my mum.... will be 36 weeks gone at Christmas and have been invited to MIL's (2 hrs away).....

Have just decided that 36 weeks is prob OK (last time I was still working at 36 wks) but do remember I had trouble sitting in the car at 38 weeks with my 1st DS (we had a 20 mile drive for my DH's birthday dinner and I was getting Braxton Hicks all the way) I certainly couldn't have driven 2 hrs at 38 weeks....

If you do go make sure you take your notes, hospital bag and are aware where the nearest hospital is....

BTW can you leave it a few weeks and see how you feel? speak to oyur friend - I'm sure she;ll understand if you keep her updated!

I'm 38 weeks today and I would say yes to the invite if you really do want to go but then see on the day if you're up for it.

You could also ask your friend cost wise whether she would rather add 2 guests at the last minute or have 2 cancel at the last minute? Caterers will generally add 2 meals no problem but your friend will have to pay for your meals if you cancel at the last mo.....just a thought.