Really struggling now...

[MummyLovesPrams]

Hello ladies,

I'm really sorry for this moan - please don't get me wrong I know I am so lucky to be PG but really struggling now.

I'm 35+1 with my second baby, a boy, & this PG has really taken it's toll on me.

From day one I have have had constant nausea/sickness, I've got the joys of SPD again except this time it's 10x times worse & is complete agony.

I feel dizzy all the time, I'm utterly exhausted, getting headaches, spend most of my day feeling like I'm going to pass out

I've kept the MW informed & she just says I'm 'one of these women who doesn't cope with PG'.

When I was 33+0 my little man decided to try & escape early & so I was admitted to hospital, given steroids & put on a drip. Thankfully the drip worked it's magic & they managed to stop labour.

These past few days my back ache has got worse, getting lots & lots of very strong BH's, lots of niggles, nesting has really kicked in & I just generally feel quite unwell.

I think probably the worst thing is not knowing if he's going to end up coming early or not - obviously I know there is every chance he could still go to term but in the back of my mind I'm always wondering if he will try & evict himself early again.

I also have a 2 year old little girl who is keeping me on my toes bless her.

I just feel so wiped out & all I seem to be doing these days is stuffing my face

Sorry for the moan ladies

Xx

Little Man is also 2/5ths engaged (2/5ths IN)

Xx

You don't have much longer to go. Keep focusing on that.

You have coped so well up to this point, you can do it a little while longer.

"she just says I'm 'one of these women who doesn't cope with PG'"

How wonderfully charming. Bet you said "oh right i see now i know i will stop it" and bounced out of there a la tigger.

Some people dont get any bad symptoms with pregnancy. They are extremely lucky. They do not simply "cope better" with it - they have less to cope with.

If any non pregnant person felt like some of us feel in pregnancy they would be in a hospital bed with people doing countless tests on them, but oh no, youre pregnant, its normal, natural so get on with it.

Whoever said pregnancy was a joy was mad. Or a man. A single childless man with no female friends or family. Or very non understanding. The problem is that if women dont go through such a horrible pregnancy then they just dont get it and them not getting it leads to a lack of emotional support which is what you really need.

Yes there isnt long to go now but if someone had a bad hangover and on top of this were unable to walk properly, sleep fully and had the other symptoms and you told them never mind it will only last another month then they would probably sib hysterically.

I understand some of the way to how you feel. I have had horrible sickness and have only now at 30 weeks stopped being sick several times a day - am still sick every morning and feel nauseas throughout the day and can only eat a limited diet BUT the fog is clearing. I have no idea how I have made it this far. I also have a toddler to deal with who likes exercise, outside and erm more exercise. He hates tv. I am "lucky" in that I do not have SPD - I have no idea how you cope with this on top. I have spent many days sobbing and feeling miserable as it is so tough to deal with on a daily basis knowing its unlikely to go away any time soon - I think its the lack of a break from it which is hard.

Dealing with a toddler when pregnant is exhausting and with these problems on top a complete nightmare. People keep telling me to rest then i might feel better. Erm ok then. Today ds you are going to play quietly and happily all day and make yourself everything, change your own nappy and put yourself down for naps. Hmmmm.

Youve got to nearly 36 weeks now so even if they do make an appearance chances are everything will be fine especially as you had those steroids so try not to worry too much about that (yeah right youre saying but you get what I mean). Big difference between now and 33 weeks.

Is there anyone you can get to help you? I found I had to sob and cry hysterically for people to really understand - they thought because I was doing everything I could cope with it rather than just being a mum and doing everything even when I felt I was about to die.

Hopefully life with a newborn will be a breeze for you - know it was relatively when ds was tiny compared to pregnancy xxxxx

Hiya WTB,

Your post did make me giggle - just what I needed too!!

I just find it such a struggle to get through the day now & seem to get very little sympathy/support - like you say all I seem to get is 'Not long now' or 'ah well it'll all be a distant memory soon'.

I was a bit stumped by the MW tbh - I thought she might offer more then 'you're just one of those women' - gee thanks!

Like you say because it's pregnancy related no-one seems to give a stuff!

I'm sorry to hear you've been feeling equally rough hun & with an active toddler in tow too just to add to the fun eh ;)

DD is happ to amuse herself for small limited amounts of time but no more long enough then for me to drink half a cup of luke warm tea!

Sadly there aren't many people who can help out - DH does his best to help out with housework etc but his job entails shift work & long hours so I am often on my own with DD for a good 9 hours a day. MIL would help but she works full time & my mother....well let's not go there

sighs thanks for letting me moan hun.

I really hope your sickness/nausea eases off for you soon

((((((((((hugs))))))))))