Bookd for medical management miscarriage and now terrified

[Lauren912]

I found out on Friday at my 9 week scan that I am going to miscarry. Unfortunately, there had been no growth in 2 weeks and there was no longer a heartbeat.

We discussed the different options; expectant management, medical management and surgery. Surgery terrifies me so that's out. In my previous miscarriage, I was given a week to think about it/see if it happened on its own and luckily I miscarried naturally before the next appointment. I had been lightly spotting (which prompted the early scan) and then fully miscarried on Christmas day. I ended up needing to go into hospital due to the amount of blood I was losing and I was glad to be in a medical setting where they could look after me, rather than being scared at home.

This time around I would have preferred to wait for it to happen naturally again, however my brother is getting married in a few weeks so I run the risk of it not happening on its own, needing intervention or the miscarriage possibly happening on the days leading upto the wedding or the wedding day itself.

For this reason I have opted for medical management, and I will be going to hospital tomorrow to take the mifopristone tablet, then be admitted to hospital on the Wednesday to take the misoprostol. They recommended I take the misoprostol in hospital due to the blood loss in the last miscarriage (I was losing multiple clots the size of my fist before the sac passed and ended up being quite unwell, needing morphine).

Me being me, I have been reading people's experiences of taking misoprostol and now I'm terrified. I've read so many stories of people losing too much blood, needing blood transfusions and ultimately needing surgery anyway to stop the bleeding. I've also read that it is apparently more painful than expected management.

If it wasn't for my brothers wedding I'd just wait but feel like I have to go through with the medicated route now, and I'm so scared. I just wish I didn't have to do this.

Sorry for the long winded post, I guess what I'm asking is for stories of people's experiences with using misoprostol vs expectant management please ❤️

I haven't had medical management for any of my miscarriages but with my first I was in a similar position of losing too much blood and needing hospital treatment.
I found the staff did take this seriously when I had my second miscarriage and they moved to surgical management very quickly. I know you don't want this but for what it's worth it was very quick and my recovery/ bleeding afterwards was much quicker too.
I hope the process goes as smoothly as possible for you and I'm really sorry.

I’ve had to use misoprostol twice, first time in hospital, it was fine, pain but nothing unmanageable. Second time at home, pains but nothing major I was still able to do light housework etc. both times I had painkillers and anti sickness tablets. I would say take something to take your mind off it as much as possible, a book or a tablet to watch some tv. Good luck, you will be fine. And sorry for your loss x

Sorry for your loss. I think you will be better off taking it in hospital and chances are it will be fine but at least you’ll be in the best place if there were any complications. I’m one of the club who had to go to A&E and have a blood transfusion and emergency surgery, it was awful before I went in and I thought I might die, it was the middle of the night when I started bleeding heavily. So you will be in good hands if you do it in hospital then hopefully you can go home immediately after it’s over as posters said, take a tablet or a book in. I hope it goes as well as can be expected, be kind to yourself x