Positive pregnancy tests and feeling worried about what to do next

[FrenchieB89]

Hi All,
I took a pregnancy test last night and again this morning both positive, there are only the cheap Morrison's own branded ones though does anybody know how reliable these are? I haven't told my boyfriend yet, he already has a daughter at 15, we've never really spoke about having children together but i always got the impression he didn't want any more (he is 40 years old) so i'm really nervous about telling him, i've also just started a new job, only been there 3 months, i have a lot of debt that i wanted to clear before thinking about a family and our house isn't big enough for another child so we'll have to look at moving and on top of all that i'm 37 years old which can cause problems in pregnancy right?

I think it's safe to say i am very scared, i don't know what i need to do, I do have a really good support system around me with family and friends and when i tell them they will be over the moon and will all rally round to help, i think I'm just looking for advice from a neutral perspective—someone who won't be distracted by their excitement and will listen to my worries. Maybe then I can get excited myself before I share my news with everyone.

That's a clear result- you are pregnant.

Being 37 is neither here nor there. Start taking some prenatal vitamins, or at least vitamin d + folic acid, at least till you decide what to do.

How long have you been together? How many children do you have already?

Thank you for the advice,

We have been together nearly 6 years now, no children together, this will be my first. He does have a 15year old daughter from another relationship. To be honest he's an amazing dad, i think i'm just very overwhelmed at the moment and overthinking his reaction.

It is an incredibly clear pregnancy test. Get some prenatal vitamins today.

Head part is all the practicalities like you have listed, money, house, support. You have to consider that you might be raising this child alone so consider that possibility. You might also be raising your child with your partner. 37 and 40 is fine. It really should have been a conversation when you started having sex, what contraception you are both using, what would your plan be if you were to become pregnant?

Just seen your update, if you have been together for 6 years and so were 31 when you started dating why hasn't pregnancy/children conversation come up? As you had no children yourself did you want children?

Heart part is, do you want a child and all that comes with that? If the answer is yes then you will find a way to make everything work, it might not be easy but there are strong women raising children without a partner. You said you have a support network so that is great.

I know we should have sat down and had a proper conversation but i don't know, time just got away from us i suppose. He knows I want children and he knows I came off contraception (for other reasons, not for pregnancy), so it's not like we haven't spoke about anything, But whether he wants this child or not he will 100% support me so i guess maybe i've answered my own question really, i'm just really nervous about it.

To be honest telling my partner is only a small part of my worries, i have a lot going round my head at the moment, I thought i would be excited if i got pregnant but now I am, I'm spiralling a bit.

Part of that is your hormones! Go for a walk, breathe, think about what YOU want.

And the sooner you tell him the sooner you can stop worrying about telling him.