2nd baby thoughts

[Annie96x]

my daughter is nearly turning 2 and I swore blind I don’t want anymore child as I always thought 1 was enough. However I’m starting to have those baby thoughts! I don’t even know why. However i had a very traumatic childbirth and nearly died through hemorrhage. I lost 2.5lr through a retained placenta. It does still haunt sometimes and I think about it. I also had a rough pregnancy. So im not sure I’m even suitable and safe to have another child. Is anyone else had a similar experience and went on to have another?

I haven't had exactly the same experience, but I had an emergency c section under traumatic circumstances with my first. It really affected me and I had PTSD symptoms for months. What really helped me was having trauma therapy (I went through the NHS mental health services). I had always wanted more than one child but the birth frightened me and my husband so much I was adamantly against it. The therapy really helped me process things. I am in a place now where I can accept what happened without anger or distressing feelings when the memories pass into my mind.

My little boy is 20 months old, I am now pregnant again coming up to 15 weeks. It was planned and although I have some anxieties about the next birth I feel more prepared.

My first pregnancy was rough too with periods of hyperemesis and hospital treatment for that. But actually this pregnancy although I have still felt very sick is much more manageable.

Do you think talking to someone about the birth or having some trauma therapy might help? I think it's so sad that our brith experiences can put us off having the family we want. But it can be so scary can't it, your feelings are totally valid.

On the physical side, could you go and talk to your GP about if there are any reasons why you couldn't have a second after your haemorrhage?

I'm so sorry you went through all you did.