Hi everyone. This is my first time posting but just wondering if anyone has any advice or pearls
of wisdom. My husband of 18 months has informed me he no longer wants to be married. We have been together for 6 years. He told me a week ago. I’m 22 weeks pregnant and we already have a toddler. He is now demanding we sell our home or I buy him out of his half. I’m facing the prospect of having to look for somewhere else to live at such a time in my life with already a small child as well as the prices in London. He tells me it’s all my fault; and that the blame is 100% on me. He has been a completely absent father with regards to our child and I have done in excess of 95% of the work raising her. He never wanted a second baby which has come as a surprise to us both and I feel this has been a major catalyst in our break up. He also has a lot of old trauma from his own childhood and I believe is likely suffering a reasonably serious case of narcissistic personality disorder brought on by his childhood experiences which has made our marriage challenging. This is really being shown in his lack of empathy or accountability as well as his gross entitlement to his feelings while denying or belittling mine.
I feel like I already know the answer as to what I should do but am struggling to find the strength. The thought of having this baby alone; of not having him there when I come home from
hospital, and even as we move on with our lives the idea of him with another woman makes me physically sick. Can someone say something encouraging to help lift me from this pit.