Hey,
Hoping for a bit of reassurance. Thank you in advance for listening. I have a 3.5 YO son who is a joy and I am pregnant with no.2 currently (12 weeks tomorrow).
We have not had an easy ride to get here. I lost 3 pregnancies before I fell with my son (including 1 ectopic and lost my tube). Since my son we have had a further 4 losses including 2 ectopics and my final tube was lost.
This is therefore pregnancy no.9 and was conceived via IVF. My son would love to have a sibling, he is a very sociable and would love to have a brother or sister to play with.
However - I am now panicking whether we have made a mistake. We have really thrown ourselves into being adventurous with our son, he is great in restaurants and we don’t shy away from activities and taking him here there and everywhere.
How will we continue this with 2. I am thinking of logistics of holidays - I can already tell my husband knows the first year will be very tough and I can tell he is approaching it negatively. I was thinking about whether I could go away with my parents solo (I don’t drive) but even thinking about how we would get everything in my parents car or how it would be possible for me to get to somewhere in the UK via public transport with 2 kids.
I am just panicking about all the logistics. Me and my husband were so excited when I finally fell pregnant with my son but now we have actually got here for no.2 all I am thinking is panic and how will we cope. I feel like we feel flat about the big hill we have to climb when we were so happy last time.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read xx