First trimester 40° holiday ?

[SharpCoralHiker]

Hi everybody

I'm 7 weeks pregnant

I've had a terrible 2 weeks as I got prescribed a drug for my morning sickness that didn't agree with me. It's my firt pregnancy so I thought the hell was just normal pregnancy. Luckily I'm off the drug now and things are much better.

We have a friends group holiday next week in France which is supposed to hit 40°.

My husband has said he doesn't think I should go because of the heat but is still planning on going himself because I'm better now. Because of the drug interaction I now have 2 appointments with specialists on the week we are supposed to be going on holiday.

Firstly- I'm annoyed that he was only willing to stay with me whilst I was vomiting my guts up. But now I'm not he's fine to leave me to all the appointments by myself. Is this unreasonable? Is this my hormones being angry? Am I being needy?

Secondly do I just go on the holiday as well? They're my school friends rather than his but we've grown as a groupnand I think I might get FOMO not going. Now I'm feeling better I'm wondering maybe I should cancel the appointments and rebook them for after France and go on holiday myself this avoiding the hormonal jealously that is clearly building.

Thirdly (related) is that a stupid idea to go to somewhere 40° in your first trimester? Has anyone on here been on holiday in that kind of temperature in the first trimester. For reference I live in Devon which obviously does not hit that kind of
temperature 😂

Woah…. Your thread needs to be about how unhappy you are with your husband!!

Sounds like the pair of you will be bickering throughout this group holiday so maybe best for the group.. stay at home!

You know that women in tropical countries have babies right?

You might want to holiday at a slower pace than usual and have to accept that there may be times when the others are doing things while you stay in the aircon accomodation but I’d give it a go. How would you feel if he left you behind and went out? If that’s not ok then you might want to skip this holiday as neither of you will have fun.

Stay home and he goes on holiday. No he doesn’t need to be there for every single appointment.

With the heat, it's up to you really. Some people cope better in higher temps than others. Also, consider what you'll be doing, whether the accomodation has air conditioning etc. Staying in an air conditioned villa with a pool is probably fine. Sightseeing around Paris, probably not.

Whether he should stay with you or not...again it's a personal preference. Some people would be fine with this, others not so much. If you really want him to stay because you're worried/need support at these appointments then he should stay. If you're absolutely fine, but just don't want him to go because misery likes company then I'd have a rethink.

If there was no holiday, would he have taken time off for the appointments or would you have attended on your own?

now. Because of the drug interaction I now have 2 appointments with specialists on the week we are supposed to be going on holiday.

that sounds quite serious given you’re off them now and all fine?

Dh and I have a trip booked to France this weekend, it's forecaseing 37 degrees so I am on the verge of pulling the plug. Flights and accom are booked so I will be sending him alone. I'm gutted, but I don't want to take risks. I'm 21 weeks.