Pregnant 4 months after c section.

[travelqueen2000]

I am 4 months post partum with my first baby and just found out I am pregnant again. I am extremely anxious and nervous and unsure on what to do. I know that if I was to keep the baby I will struggle and do not feel ready to have one just yet.i am struggling with post partum, hair loss and losing my self. I love my son so much however that i fear if I don’t keep this baby I won’t be able to have a child in the future and I will regret this decision. I am also struggling as I do not want my partner to be upset with me. I am not yet ready for a baby and would have loved to wait another year or 2 to have another. Please advise me as I am struggling.

@travelqueen2000 Why would your partner be upset with you? He had something to do with it!

They used to advise you not to get pregnant again within 18 months of having a c section because of the medical risks involved with a body that's not fully healed. Is this no longer the case?

It’s not in a bad way, he will support whatever decision I make but I’m worried maybe in the back of his mind he doesn’t agree with my decision. He loved children and wants to have plenty just like me, however 4 months it’s a little early and I’m super anxious about what decision to make

Yes this is still the case. They always advise

@travelqueen2000 Was it a complete surprise for you both? I do understand that as I fell pregnant on the pill (taken 100% correctly) myself. A big shock.

You have to do what is right for you. I had 15 months between my first two sections with no issues but that was planned. If you are not ready for another baby then that’s fine, you have to prioritise yourself.

I had 13 months between my two children. No issues with either c section, two straight forward pregnancies. First six month were tough but it’s been fairly smooth sailing since.

Best of luck!

My friend got pregnant three months after her first. I think there are trade offs with waiting longer or having them sooner. By having them close in age you will be giving them a friend for life as they will be at a closer developmental level. And the young children phase will be over faster. Completely understand why you’re panicking but I see my friend and she’s doing well. A lot depends (as ever) on the temperament of babies. Her youngest is clingy and doesn’t like to be put down but luckily her eldest is very happy and confident and it works. Good luck xxx

Also I meant to add as I understand it the risk with b2b C sections at under a year between birth dates is only if you were to try to have a vaginal birth for your second. My friend’s obstetrician told her that xx

The official advice is to wait at least 18 months between c sections and to not have more than 3. However that’s very general guidance. Can you have a scan to assess the scar area - specifically ask for residual myometrial thickness and to assess if there is an Isthmocele, or any other issues within the uterine cavity eg fibroids.

Yes - the main concern is rupture but this happens so rarely and when it does the majority of times it happens when attempting a vbac so risks can be minimised by opting for ELCS