Due / overdue support thread June 26

[warmbeluga]

Unless I squeeze a baby out in the next 3 hours 20
mins, I am officially overdue.

It’s my first babe, and they are big, estimated above 99th centile. Because they are big I convinced myself I would go into spont labour at 37/38wks, that did not happen, and here I am at 40wks. I’m absolutely massive, it’s so hot, I’m so miserable, I cry every day. I feel so sorry for my husband who is bloody wonderful but can’t really do anything for me and I’m horribly irritable and probably not very nice to be around atm.

I’m not having any proper signs yet. Every morning I wake up still pregnant feels like crushing disappointment.

Please LORD get this baby out of me soon.

Anyone else? Maybe we can help each other through

Solidarity here from a mum who had hers at 41+6 and 41+5, one of which was in a 2021 heatwave, and 6 months preg now.

It's totally shit especially in this heat must be completely unbearable, pro tip sit with your feet in a washing up bowl of cold water!

I would say that only 1% of babies are born on their due date so clinging onto that date to the hour and minute is not going to help you, nor is labelling yourself as 'overdue' when due date is just and estimate and it's pretty natural to go up to 42 weeks.

Also in the big baby study something like 60% of babies who were meant to be 'big' according to growth scans came out perfectly average so please don't get spooked by that!

Anyway easier said than done but instead of being miserable and hung up on dates you need to do stuff that gets the oxytocin flowing! Watch your favourite TV, eat your favourite foods, make plans with your friends, go for dinner with DP, anything that means you're not sitting around waiting for baby.

Id actually NOT want to be on a maternity ward this week since they're the most boiling places on earth so maybe reframe your mind that you hope baby is born after the heatwave....then sods law they'll arrive 😂

Good luck! X

@Unicornorangehaha aw thanks for the kind words!!! Well done getting to 41+5/6! I can absolutely feel your struggle.

You are totally right, I need to switch it around in my head, just easier said than done!

Wishing you all the very best with baby 3!!! X

How are you doing @warmbeluga?

I'm in the same boat, 39+1 and convinced myself they would be coming early because they are showing big on scans and now realising that's probably not going to happen.

The heat is not helping, but just having to look on the bright side that I don't have a newborn at home with no way of keeping them cool.

@midnights92hello! I’m not great! I’m just so uncomfortable.

Saw my MW today and unfortunately found out my baby has disengaged from my pelvis and is now 4/5ths palpable meaning labour isn’t likely to be close. I’m gutted! I’m also 3 failed sweep attempts deep. It’s so tiring.

I have provisionally booked an outpatient propess for 41+2 but if the head is still high I may change my mind and give myself a bit longer…

Fair point re newborn in a heatwave! I’m just glad I’m not an inpatient/labouring on a delivery suite in this hell!

How have you been today?

My first didn't arrive until 41w 3d... Well I got coerced into an induction with all the fear mongering, it failed after 3 days and I went for an 'emergency' C-section.

Second born 42w 2d... Waited for spontaneous labour and had a vaginal birth. 🤍🤍

Wishing you all the best and a safety delivery xxx