2nd miscarriage and losing hope

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Feeling unbelievably low today. I had a miscarriage back in January at around 5 weeks. I had cramp and bleeding and it was confirmed with a scan. I fell pregnant again (took a test on 2 May) and we were thrilled. Today I'm 10 weeks pregnant. My midwife arranged an early scan for me to provide some reassurance after the miscarriage in January. I went alone today feeling absolutely no worries at all (no symptoms), only to be told the baby stopped growing at 5 weeks. I'm devastated. I need to go back in a week to confirm the loss and they'll talk through my options. I'm not sure if they'll recommend pills, surgery etc. Feeling really scared about the process. I'm blessed with a beautiful 2 year old girl and she is my world, but I'm now starting to seriously panic that I'll not be able to provide her with a sibling. As an only child myself, I didn't want that for her. I'm going to be 39 in October and feel like time is running out. I know the NHS don't start tests until after 3 miscarriages. Anyone older that's had a few miscarriages and then went on to have a healthy pregnancy I could really do with some good stories from you right about now.

I’m so sorry for your losses. Please don’t lose hope. You’ll find hundreds of positive stories on here. I had two mc before my first baby at 39 and second at 41.

Needed to hear this thank you ♥️

I’m sorry for your losses, I’m going through similar. Fell pregnant in March for the first time and miscarried in April at 6 weeks. Fell pregnant again straight after then had another miscarriage this month which I had surgery for 2 weeks ago. Hoping the positive stories you get on here will make me feel better too! Sending you lots of love, it’s an awful situation to been in ♥️

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I was slightly younger at 35 but had a still birth then 2 MMC before finally having a successful pregnancy between my 2 living children. Don't lose hope.

Tommy's Miscarriage website has some information on how to request tests from your doctor after 2 miscarriages. There is a miscarriage support tool which is really helpful. Also speak to your GP, I got a referral after just 2 MMCs.

I'm so sorry for your losses. My story is similar, I'm 36, have a 3 year old son, have had 2 miscarriages since (both missed miscarriages), now 17 weeks pregnant and really hoping this pregnancy works out! Unfortunately I couldn't get any help until after a 3rd miscarriage too but they did say that often women manage to have a successful pregnancy by then which is probably why they won't offer the testing until then.

I'd recommend the surgery over the pills if you want any input. I've had both and the recovery was so much faster and easier with the surgery.

After 2 losses your GP should be able to prescribe progesterone, which has been shown in studies to improve pregnancy outcomes for women who have had 2 or more miscarriages.

i had 3 between the ages of 36 and 38, was diagnosed with APS. Aspirin forever (it’s also recommended that women over 35 take aspirin each NIGHT during pregnancy, again it’s been shown to improve outcomes) and heparin during pregnancy. Successful pregnancy just before I turned 39. My next pregnancy at 41 was with aspirin and heparin and was another miscarriage. Progesterone was added to my next pregnancy and that was successful, baby born when I was almost 42. I was supposed to stop the progesterone at 12 weeks but it was about 26 weeks when I felt confident enough to come off - this was supported by my consultant.

As you are over 35 many recurrent miscarriage clinics will see you after 2 miscarriages instead of requiring 3 - this is dependant on nhs trust. Ask for your GP to refer you as it’s worth having whatever tests are offered, plus you will be closely monitored in all future pregnancies, consultant led, scans every 2 weeks in the first trimester, more scans in the last trimester.
If you get pregnant while on the waiting list my experience is that they will try to see you during that pregnancy if you notify them.
Good luck x