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Unexpected pregnancy at 38 after infertility and IVF, feeling unsure

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Mckin · 03/06/2026 22:43

Hi.
I’ve just turned 38 and have a nearly 9 year old son and had been trying for a second since late 2019 - 2021. I had an early miscarriage in 2021 also. Found out I had a low egg reserve and endometriosis and went through two rounds of IVF which failed in 2022. We decided to stop trying after that and made peace (eventually) with the fact that it would never happen and our son would be an only child. He has cousins and has a great life.

Fast forward to now and I’ve just found out I’m 5+ weeks pregnant. My initial reaction is that this isn’t what I want at this stage of my life i.e age, going back to the baby stage, body changes/weight, another C section, my son starting high school and having a 3 year old starting nursery. We have a family holiday to Florida booked for this year which would have to be cancelled, a girls trip too which I wouldn’t go on. I’m worried how my son would be also. My husband is excited although not trying to get too ahead of ourselves as we did miscarry in 2021.

I suppose I’m wondering if anyone has found themselves in a similar position that could offer their experiences.

TIA

OP posts:
Ipsevenenabibas · 03/06/2026 22:45

I haven't but expect it is quite natural to feel unsure given your circumstances. Best wishes..

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